You never fail to inspire me!
Thank you for posting

Connecting with people helps me grow.
Growing helps me to be able to give.
Giving makes me feel more connected.

Somehow my scattered and directionless life has found this positive cycle, and I think it started with being koveah ittim l'Torah. Voluntarily learning Torah impacts you as a person. As one develops, it becomes increasingly meaningful to actualize that development in a positive way. Why improve things that you aren't really going to use? 

I think an important nekuda is that growth and potential without actualization leads to stagnant decline. 

Of course another important nekuda is the power or connecting.

These aren't chiddushim, pretty sure I learned much of this from Rav Dessler, but it hits different when you see it applied in your own life.

Reading a GYE article about lust in marriage and one line really hit hard:

"I can't have true union with my wife while lust is active because she as a person really doesn't matter; she's even in the way."

It is me who puts my own wife in between what I desire and our potential to connect. I'm taking. My excuses for not being able to give are more of my taking. And my giving even has taking in it.

Applying this thoughtfully bares a harsh truth. More so in my past, but still so in my present. I need to stay aware of this.

https://guardyoureyes.com/articles/questions-and-answers/item/lust-in-marriage?category_id=36&start=1

Thank you for your posts. 

Have not been on here in a while. Learnt allot from these posts and gave me tremendous chizuk. 

Thank you!

We are supposed to gain something on Purim and take it with us.

So here goes:

I am greatness!

We all are. Kol tov Brothers

Hi. I am an older Mechanech and have had occasional falls -- maybe monthly -- over the last few years. On Erev Pesach I restarted Covenant eyes, got 3  allies and joined GYE. I am really looking forward to discussing my different challenges and tests with a mentor and hope I can straighten myself out completely. I recall the feelings of kedusha I used to have, which I miss. I think that what I did on Erev Pesach was a big stride in the right direction, but I need to keep going with Hashem's help, until I can find my way back to kedusha.

Welcome. You are on the path to kedusha. Please stick around and get to know the oilam. The growth that you can attain from fighting this yetzer hara is likely much more than you can imagine. It is not just to get back to where you were - you have the opportunity to get to a place much higher. Embrace the opportunity.

Wishing you tremendous success
Vehkam

levnishbar wrote on 15 Apr 2025 03:35:

I fit into your box (see a link to my thread in my signature). I found tremendous growth here as vehkam mentioned. The sky's the limit. Welcome and here's wishing for your sustained success!

Hi @levnishbar, thanks for sharing. You're welcome to start your own thread, and share your background, goals and wins etc. 

Hatzlacha!