shalom1530 wrote on 23 Mar 2025 14:38:

You’re 100% right if it’s about scoring Mitzvas. 

But if we’re trying to change our lives to the better - either with minor changes to get us at least 45 days clean at a time, or bigger minor changes such as dealing with our emotional (stress…) stuff, then winning a day and losing a day means something isn’t working right…

A truly wonderful week to you!

This is a hijacking of CO's thread

eerie wrote on 23 Mar 2025 17:39:

Ditto to you 

I was referencing mitzvahs but same goes even your not here to score mitzvahs
because keeping strong for one day is a very hard thing to accomplish and that accomplishment can't go away even if you fall through afterwards
obviously the fight is never done as long as you live even if you stopped for 40 days or even for a year the fight never stops
But what I was trying to say is that, if you fight one day at a time and you celebrate your wins it makes it a lot easier to keep up in battle because even if you fail afterwards it's a lot easier to start again if you remember the few days you did keep strong and that will give you the strength to keep on fighting but if you look at the previous 10 days as one big battle that you lost that takes away a lot of the motivation to start fighting again
and that is a big problem that a lot of people have which makes  them to give up if they fall through once or twice but if you fight one day a time and you look at every day as a win that will give you the strength to keep on fighting and eventually to get clean forever
Have a wonderful week !!

Almost 700 days of Tahara. ברוך ה'

Reflecting about the search for Chometz.
And what it means that we are charged to be a בא לטהר
I don't have the headspace for a proper post, haven't been here nearly as much as I want to lately, been mostly out of touch, too. 
But I feel now is as good of a time as any to stop in and say thank you.
Thank you, friends. 
Thank you, Hashem. 

i am, 
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