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Re: Restarting my journey... Again 26 Nov 2024 20:06 #425854

wantingbetter
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odyossefchai wrote on 26 Nov 2024 19:57:

amevakesh wrote on 26 Nov 2024 17:19:

Just like no two people are the same, no two struggles are the same, so too HHM's advice to everyone is different. Advice that works for one person might be devastating for another. For some he uses kid gloves, for some he offers empathy, for others he takes out his big and scary SLEDGEHAMMER and lovingly bops you on the head. There's no real shortcut for making use of the most powerful tool in GYE which is HHM other then to call him up. It might take time for you to get there, but when you do, your life will be changed forever. Don't be afraid, he's the nicest, most understanding person, and the chances are high that if you're a Bachur, he won't even take out his sledgehammer. He reserves that for when people mistreat their wives and don't realize it. Please for your sake, gather the courage and take the plunge. You will be glad you did.

What about the people who need a sledgehammer to get them to call HHM?
We need a pre sledgehammer to the sledgehammer

Re: Restarting my journey... Again 02 Dec 2024 09:12 #426276

sunnyswan6 Current streak: 3 days OFFLINE Fresh Boarder Posts: 19	Update: I made it to 30 days!! My longest streak in at least 2 years and one of the few times I made it this long in 10 years. Honestly, I'm not sure how I did it, I have the same access to porn as always, maybe it's because I'm in the holy land, i don't know, but it feels great. Next goal 60 days. Here we go!

Re: Restarting my journey... Again 02 Dec 2024 09:39 #426277

Muttel Current streak: 334 days NOW ONLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 627 Karma: 30	Just seeing this thread for the first time, mazel tov!! You should be zoche to hit 90,900,9000….. To ride on what others have said; To have sustained success, an accountability partner goes a long way in ensuring that… Feel free to reach out, we understand you…. Best, Muttel
	We're in this struggle together; feel free to reach out! Muttel15@gmail.com Feel free to call/text! (908) 251-9590 (google) Check out my thread here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/413043-My-ENTIRE-story#413043

Re: Restarting my journey... Again 02 Dec 2024 11:04 #426280

odyossefchai Current streak: 217 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 332 Karma: 15	Wow. The first 30 days were so hard for me. You have needed tremendous personal gevura to get there. Keep shteiging
	I didn't believe I could be clean Until I actually got clean. If I can do it, you can too! 845 445 9131 odyossefchai613@gmail.com

Re: Restarting my journey... Again 02 Dec 2024 16:40 #426293

jollylemur95 Current streak: 161 days OFFLINE Expert Boarder Posts: 154	Wow! That is not simply a good job. That is off the charts!!! It is an inspiration to see what you have accomplished! Keep it up!

Re: Restarting my journey... Again 08 Dec 2024 13:05 #426718

sunnyswan6 Current streak: 3 days OFFLINE Fresh Boarder Posts: 19	Quick update. At day 36 (longest ever I think), last few days were pretty rough. I was bored out of my mind. That led to lots of filter poking and one very small slip. Hope to keep busy this week and stay strong.

Re: Restarting my journey... Again 08 Dec 2024 14:42 #426719

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sunnyswan6 wrote on 08 Dec 2024 13:05:

Quick update. At day 36 (longest ever I think), last few days were pretty rough. I was bored out of my mind. That led to lots of filter poking and one very small slip. Hope to keep busy this week and stay strong.

Shalom Brother,

When the going gets tough, that's when the tough get going.
Where do they go?
To GYE to connect with some special friends who are here to support them through both the good times and the harder times.
Stay in touch. Is there anyone you've tried reaching out to from the previous suggestions - including those that provide the suggestions

You are doing great and wishing you continued hatzlacha!

Today is yesterday's tomorrow.
The yetzarim a person has the most trouble dealing with are his most powerful God-given tools for developing his potential and achieving shleimus.
It doesn't matter how big the number is, only that today it is going up by one.

Please feel free to reach out. I'd appreciate connecting with you (via GYE, email, or phone - whatever floats your boat)
A little about me: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/412971-I-Want-to-Help-Others

Re: Restarting my journey... Again 09 Dec 2024 01:31 #426752

colincolin OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 538 Karma: 8	It's not easy but if you start stumbling, walk away from that computer/phone. Literally walk away and do something else.

Re: Restarting my journey... Again 09 Dec 2024 04:25 #426758

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Shalom sunnyswan, Keep up the fight, it's amazing that you made it this far, it shows that you are commited to changing and growing. If boredom was your trigger then your doing great by identifying it and addressing it. Hatzlacah Rabbah!

"Greatness is forged in battle" - Reb Yerucham Levovitz
My Journey - https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/399197-On-the-way-Again
Things that worked for me - https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/2-What-Works-for-Me/422770-Hopeful-Memories
If you are ready to be there for others add your info to this thread - https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/2-What-Works-for-Me/428895-Thread-for-reaching-out-contacts
Feel Free to Reach out to me through email at hopefulposek613@gmail.com
Or my google voice at 3473772871 (NOTE: New Number)

Re: Restarting my journey... Again 09 Dec 2024 19:34 #426796

sunnyswan6 Current streak: 3 days OFFLINE Fresh Boarder Posts: 19	hopefulposek wrote on 09 Dec 2024 04:25: Shalom sunnyswan, Keep up the fight, it's amazing that you made it this far, it shows that you are commited to changing and growing. If boredom was your trigger then your doing great by identifying it and addressing it. Hatzlacah Rabbah! Identifying boredom as a trigger was easy, doing something about it is much harder, especially in yeshiva

Re: Restarting my journey... Again 09 Dec 2024 23:15 #426821

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Keep up the great work!
It's helpful to realize two (seemingly opposite) ideas:
1. As you said, take it one day at a time - today's goal is today - and that itself is a great accomplishment
2. At the same time, there may be a voice saying well, you can do 30 days, but you can't do 60, certainly not 90. It's not true! There's no reason you can't continue this way endlessly. There will be challenges along the way (like you've seen already) but the Nisayon should largely get easier.
3. Be very careful about "filter poking" and small slips. That often increases desire and urges and makes it much harder. The nature of the Yetzer Hora is pull is in slowly telling you, "just" do this and that's all. But then the urge builds and builds. So stay away from the small, more innocent things.

Hatzlocha!

אין הדבר תלוי אלא בי

אלמלא הקב"ה עוזרו לא יכול לו
זרע אברהם אוהבי

Re: Restarting my journey... Again 11 Dec 2024 23:09 #426932

sunnyswan6 Current streak: 3 days OFFLINE Fresh Boarder Posts: 19	Update. 40 days clean! Had a few rough days with one slip. Realized I have an easier time when I consistently go to the gym, not sure why, probably because it gives me something to do.

Re: Restarting my journey... Again 12 Dec 2024 00:34 #426938

stopsurvivingstartliving Current streak: 1 day OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 439 Karma: 32	sunnyswan6 wrote on 11 Dec 2024 23:09: Update. 40 days clean! Had a few rough days with one slip. Realized I have an easier time when I consistently go to the gym, not sure why, probably because it gives me something to do. Wow! 40 days is a super number! And if you don't believe me check out this post.
	SSSL's Story (Google Doc) [You will need to request permission, which I'm happy to give.] Holy In Jerusalem (My Thread) Feel free to say hi or send some chizuk over @ stopsurvivingstartliving2024@gmail.com. My google voice number got shut down, so I won't be able to receive or send messages from there.

Re: Restarting my journey... Again 12 Dec 2024 15:45 #426984

jollylemur95 Current streak: 161 days OFFLINE Expert Boarder Posts: 154	Mazel Tov!! That is a massive accomplishment!!! It is testament to who you really are. A pure jew who has no stronger desire then to be close to Hashem!! Secondly: The gym always helps. HHM says that exercise releases the same chemical in the brain (dopamine) as fulfilling these by acting out or watching.... Can' wait to hear your next accomplishment be"h!