You can ask chaim@guardyoureyes.com how long it typically takes to get a response and whether GYE can call you if they only find someone after the zman starts when you don't have internet access.

hopefulswan89 wrote on 01 Sep 2024 17:22:

Woah...
I'm not looking for or expecting instant results. I know that change takes hard work, little by little.
Don't know anyone with ADHD that thinks they can change themselves instantly.
Quote from one of my emails to the mentors around here: 'Even if I mean well, and am truly coming here to fix myself, I’m just going to end up fooling around, mostly spending my time on the forum. I’ll maybe watch some videos or read some books and articles, trying to improve, but I wont get any serious work done. I need a mentor to check in with & be accountable to, to keep myself focused & on track.'
That's why I'm trying so hard to get a mentor or partner, and that's what I'm frustrated about.

Welcome @tzadikvekam13 to the forum!!

Here we have thousands of people who had similar issues like you.

Did you sorry out the issue with the Linux computer on a different thread? 

Are you looking for practical tips to decrease m****? Did you download The Battle of the Generation? Reading even a small part of the book can help you make the struggle much easier.

Having a full schedule can help, in yeshiva and also on break. Maximize your day!

Realize that due to bein hazmanim, HHM and others may be behind on emails.

frank.lee wrote on 01 Sep 2024 22:09:

He never said he was struggling with m. I think it’s watching his eyes

hopefulswan89 wrote on 01 Sep 2024 22:45:

Read the first post on this thread. How about you? Is there anything you are still struggling with or are you in the maintenance stage and you are only here to give others support, encouragement and advice? I am in the maintenance stage and it is great if that is where you are holding.

No. I just erased Linux from my computer and am waiting until someone can help me filter it to reinstall it.

I'm looking for a partner or mentor to do it with.

Thanks for telling me that.
I had no idea what's going on behind the scenes or why things are taking long.

Stressed... need someone to talk to.

It looks like I missed this powerful thread!

TV13, your pain and frustration resonates off the pages of your emotional thread! The difficulties of struggling and feeling as though there’s no end in sight…..

Heres a helping hand and word of encouragement. You can beat this brother….

Please feel free to reach out and a phone call would go a long way. I see you posted that you reached out to me. 

Please don’t give up on me! I try to respond to anyone who reaches out, but I don’t know who it is that reached out if they don’t introduce themselves…

If you’re down to speaking that’ll be the best…

See my number  in my signature.

Looking forward to connecting brother,
Muttel

tzaddikvikam13 wrote on 28 Aug 2024 00:52:

can you clarify?
"I've stooped to other very low things"
  things??
you dont have a taava for those thing??
you dont have taava for pics of pixels of nude women??
you only look @ porn when you bump into when your bored??

hey, hopefulposek, you here?

cande wrote on 02 Sep 2024 13:00:

Why are you beating up on him? 

Shalom Brother HopefulSwan,
Reb Cande is trying to help by getting clarification from TzadikVekam. This can help him get to the root of his situation and address it accurately.

The tone is Cande's style. Not defending it but making it known that it's not intending to be aggressive.

Kol tov

hopefulswan89 wrote on 02 Sep 2024 14:05:

I sent you a PM but it doesn't seem like you are able to read it. It seems that your posts are coming across as aggressive or judgmental. It seems to me that you are trying to help people but this doesn't seem to be the way it is being perceived. It would help a lot if you would be able to give people advice based on your experience in recovery rather than scrutinizing and judging people's posts. I assume you are unaware of how your posts come across so I am writing this.

Also, I think it would be beneficial if you open a thread and write what your original struggles were. You have over 500 days clean so I assume you are in the maintenance stage but I think it may be hurting people to see a newcomer who doesn't seem to be struggling and who we don't know that he ever was like one of us preaching from the podium. If you had a previous username and you don't want people to identify it then write about your struggles in general terms in a way that your previous username can't be identified but at least write what behavior you were struggling with.

I see that you have negative karma and I am writing this as constructive criticism. I am sure that you are a very good person and you are here either to help others or so that you don't fall or both. Every new person is a blessing to the community and it is good that we have you. I am trying to give you advice so that you can post in a meaningful way that people will find helpful. Thank you very much for your understanding and please keep posting. All the best.