Dear Thompson,



I'm not here to take you on a guilt trip or to judge you. What you did yesterday was unfortunate. You tried escaping the discomfort, but it hurt you, and you know it.



 You lost your equilibrium because of that memory, and in a moment of desperation, you decided that the fastest way to get out of the storm of it was by watching it. I understand the rationale. But as we advance, let's remember that a) it didn't work - four hours later, you watched porn again, and b) it's better to ride out the discomfort of an unwanted porn scene hijacking your brain than to feel like a dump for the next day.



With love and compassion,

Thompson (the father version).This is super powerful, Thompson.



For all those that didn't take heed of this line - it has been useful to many I've spoken to. Many of us succumb to triggers/pressures/lures to fall because it's the fastest way to be rid of the uncomfortable feeling of being triggered. If we'd adopt a mentality of acceptance, where we understand that we're triggered and are ok with it,  we'd be able to stay strong and not succumb. After all, we're humans and normal humans get triggered.... Accepting it and being ok with it can be super helpful in not acting out.....



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