Hey I’m a bocher , I was struggling with porn for 13 years , and finally it happened that I found a prostitution website and it was down hill from that , the problem is I don’t feel bad for doing the deed with a goy , I’m trying to feel bad but it ain’t working, since then even though I don’t feel bad I have quit porn and m , if anybody has suggestions for me comment thanks ! 

Feeling bad never helped me. What did help was understanding how much these behaviors were destroying my life and how out of control my life has become.

Hatzlacha 

cheerfulmongoose17 wrote on 29 Mar 2024 08:54:

its time to feel good about yourself, that you quit p&m, thats amazing power!
its not a problem that you dont feel bad about the deed. (assuming you dont plan on doing deeds again)
right now, its the יצר הרע trying to trip you up.
your a mighty warrior! keep it going

Welcome!

Regardless of how you feel you came here for a reason, correct? This is not a mussar shteeble, no one is going to make you feel bad. No one here can make you feel anything (though if you want to read about how actions like yours have destroyed lives feel free to click around the forum). However, if you think you are ready to make a change in your life, whether or not you "feel bad" this is the place to be.

cheerfulmongoose17 wrote on 29 Mar 2024 08:54:

Welcome to GYE! 
you wrote: "I don’t feel bad for doing the deed with a goy" ...
If I may ask, why don't you feel bad ? 
Is there anything wrong with "doing the deed with a goy" ?

cande wrote on 29 Mar 2024 12:57:

Did you mean to celebrate sleeping with a prostitute? 

cheerfulmongoose17 wrote on 29 Mar 2024 08:54:

Not feeling bad about it right now doesn't mean you don't care, you wouldn't have come here if you really didn't care. Sometimes it's just the feeling that there's nothing you can do about it that numbs your heart. You just need to understand your potential and realize how holy and great you really are and then you will soar!

Can u post the link again? Thnx