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Re: Thought I wouldn't need to ask for help 26 Nov 2024 17:28 #425839

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Dear ChaimOigen,

Yes, smart people can do stupid things, and not smart people continue doing stupid things. Kudos to you for stopping here and for posting - it's very courageous of you! 

My heart is with you and I'm sorry for the tough period you are experiencing. You are a strong person, you have the strength to do this! Keep Plowing!

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Re: Thought I wouldn't need to ask for help 26 Nov 2024 17:48 #425840

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Dear R' chaim, for me personally you admitting to your struggles after a full year clean, is very inspiring for 2 reasons. 



1. It's a reminder that even the best of the best struggle even after being clean for a year,
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which is a very good feeling for us the regular people to know that, not only are we not alone, but we're here together with the best of the best.



2. It's a reminder never to start getting to comfortable with yourself, just remember that the YH has a lot of patience, he'll let us become comfortable with our selves, then he'll slowly send one moderate link at a time, till he knocks us back out.



KOMT!!!

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Re: Thought I wouldn't need to ask for help 26 Nov 2024 18:15 #425843

R Chaim Ogen,

I do not think we ever communicated (I would love if that changes) but I must say how inspired I am that you admit on the forum for any misstep you may have taken. Considering how far ahead of many of us you are, it is a strong reminder that we must always be vigilant. You are such an inspiration to me, just by this simple post! Thank you

Re: Thought I wouldn't need to ask for help 26 Nov 2024 22:58 #425869

chaimoigen wrote on 26 Nov 2024 17:04:
Over the last week and a half I got in the habit of checking out a certain (non Jewish) news feed a bunch of times. Which led to following a few interesting links, a few times. In violation of my personal no browsing policy. Never went further than that, so I thought, “why should I post about violating a self-imposed Kabbala that isn’t relevant for most people?”  

The past few weeks have been tough.
But it’s stupid to go backwards and indulge in brainless numbing tactics that I’ve left behind. And it’s stupid to let myself see, even very briefly, some of the inappropriate images that the non-Jewish media feels are newsworthy (and which they do not consider inappropriate, because they live in a different universe than I.) Especially after more than a year of not seeing anything like that, BH. 

I guess smart people can do stupid things. Especially when acting without paying too much attention. Which is stupid. Well, I’m not interested in doing anything stupid.  Stopping this here and now, imyH. 

I guess I’ll have to face the things that are painful without idiotic distractions. 

Chaim Oigen

There's been a discussion in the past on this thread about when we have wins and post about them. People were saying that our motivation to win is the fact that we will be able to post afterward. When seeing R' Chaim's post today we clearly see how real of a person he is. (I don't mean to give a haskama to him, someone who clearly doesn't need one. But the points is there.)

Re: Thought I wouldn't need to ask for help 26 Nov 2024 23:37 #425874

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This is truly amazing.

Thank you for this inspiring post. It really highlights the need to be constanly vigilant, the very important fact that we are normal people, and as far as we have come we still live on this earth.
The need to stop! and move on.

We all need this chizuk.
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Re: Thought I wouldn't need to ask for help 06 Dec 2024 18:20 #426691

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A Dialogue
Re-created in the finest Carrolian verse

All in the darkest moonlit night
Full truckingly we glide;
For both our oars, with little skill,
By weakest arms are plied,
While endless words make vain pretense
Our wanderings to guide

Speak gently! Love doth whisper low
The vows that true hearts bind;
And gently Friendship’s accents flow;
Affection’s voice is kind.

Fine time has come,' the posters said,
To talk of many things:
Of clothes — and drinks — and sealing-wax —
Of turkeys, slugs, and kings

I weep for you,' the Wizard said:
I deeply sympathize.'
With sobs and tears he typed out
words cut just to size,
Waving 'round his long white beard
To dry his streaming eyes.

I’ll tell thee everything I can:
There’s little that went far.
I saw an aged wise man,
A-sitting in my car.
“How are you, aged man?” I said.
“And how is it you live?”
And his answer burnt through my head,
Like fire through a sieve.

Oh GYE chavers,” quoth Shëm, “draw near!
‘Twas an honour to see you, a favour to hear:
‘Twas a privilege high to talk and to drink
Along with R' CO (you next, I think!")


Anyway, out of time and Alice in Wonderland poems to chop up. But it was a pleasure to meet you!
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