I have this problem too, I'm not in shiduchim yet but I'll be starting pretty soon. the truth is, the taava for these things is a perversion of a totally normal and very kadushdika thing. we crave connection, relationships, and pleasure, and us, as yidden have a system of marriage that encompasses all these things and is the most hailig part of our religion.
my personal experience is that I usually find myself craving these horrible things when I'm feeling this need for connection. so the healthy thing would be to think about this need and face it and not distract myself from it, but a lot of times find myself distracting myself. so when it comes to distractions the "best" would be the horrible stuff, because its a distraction, and it gives a feeling -albeit a false one- of connection. so what I tell myself is "you want to distract yourself, fine, you'd rather do that than face it, its not the healthiest choice but alright. BUT DONT DISTRACT YOURSELF WITH SOMETHING THAT IS A PERVERSION OF THE MOST HOLY THING ON THE PLANET!! listen to some music or a podcast, watch something, like documentary or something that interests you, read a book, draw, go take a walk". in this way I've been able to, not fight like a madman with all my strength to not go to "that" website, but to remind myself of what this is really about and be horrified by the idea perverting something so holy.
I know this was mostly about my personal experience, but I hope I was able to help in some way. good luck, and stay strong!!