I have an interesting question. Approximately 8 or 9 years ago there was someone on here that tried as hard as he could to get me to join up and work on myself. I refused and was not very cooperative with him. It is a long story but a female I was chatting with was doing teshuva through GYE. Obviously she didn't want to chat with me anymore but also wanted to help me. So she got this guy from GYE to try to get me.It didn't work then,but I would love to connect with him now to say "Hineni" I am here! I was using a name "Pepsi" at that time...

Grant, you are the man; the "neighborhood bully parable" is spot on! Until the vulnerable kid believes that he can extract himself from the cycle of being taken advantage of - he will succumb every time.

Lou, the guys in the chat are the best of the best. Their honesty based on personal experiences makes them qualified like no one else - please stay in touch.

And remind the bully (yes, verbally and out loud) that you make the decisions around here. (just make sure that "she" is not in the room when you have this mirror conversation, you don't want to freak her out...)

I would like to clarify something. I am sure this is something that has been chewed over countless times here on GYE,but please indulge me and allow me to have some chewing time too.
Can someone please clarify what is the definition of an addiction? When is a behavior considered to be an addiction? Regarding our shared struggles here on GYE, Obviously every frum man has this struggle to a certain extent. Every person has a Yetzer Hara for Arayos etc and todays world is full of temptations. So, if someone falls in his nisyonos is he called addicted? Is it a certain amount of times that he falls to considered addicted? Furthermore,does it really make a difference if the term addicted is applicable or not? It is a struggle and it has to be worked on in whichever way works as long as it conforms halachicly and hashkaficly for that person. Or no, maybe there is a very different way to treat an addict and someone else and perhaps it would even be harmful to do otherwise? 
Any thoughts are welcome.
Thanks!

Hello, I generally post on my thread in the Break free forum. However, I came across my thread here now. I was reading through some of the responses I got when I first arrived here. You have no idea how helpful it is to get those first few welcome messages. It gets you through those uncomfortable days when you are not sure if you should be here or not...
Thank you!!!!!

Lou wrote on 06 Dec 2020 21:03:


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the sast test is very good, but under 10 i dont think needs real addiction style help and gye should be good enough for him