Reb GM

I totally emphasize with you!!!!

Do you hear???

However, Besides for the fact that didon was slightly graphic, you are essentially shutting down gye if you have a problem with any posts besides for the first (he was decent in the title too)

SSA cannot be discussed on a heilige website...
SA cannot be...

Btw do you have any recollection why you joined gye?
לפי דבריך you better not tell us, else you will be asking yourself to leave, and I will adamantly refuse to let you

There's a fine line between a drunk sexaholic, and bad sexaholic, but I think I know the difference - eg a guy asked in the chat "can someone tell me kosher porn websites"
Such a guy - go ahead use your fire of קנאות

I joined because I have a problem yes I say I loud and clear again there is things what its the place to say in discuss here and and there is what is not I think you can understand that 
#2 no I will not leave only after this discussion is clear I will get quite back like I was 
i said clearly I could of take out more from his message and dismantle him but I didn't because the other chat from him 
and about the guy asking a kosher p…  website I didn't saw it  
Don't think I'm a ירושלמי קנאי what is screaming שבת every shabbos by the way I was in isreal a few years and I never was by a הפגנה  but as I saw from the chizik emails when you see something wrong you say even when people are against you 
Good day 
 

Getting married wrote on 06 Apr 2016 17:46:

So why do we talk about pornography, masturbation, sexual relations? Pas Nisht!!! The word penis won't kill you. I have seen, heard, and done worse than that and I'm sure that practically everyone on this site has the same experience. Let's not pretend that we are something we are not.

Regardless, I will not be continuing this discussion because I firmly believe that it was not an issue. In my experience, many times when I had a "problem" with somebody or something else, the root of the issue was inside me.

Kenuas??? Where did that get in here ???

There is one simple question. Is what he wrote triggering others ? I will would let the holy warriors of this holy site decide.

Are we here to judge others? Do we want to be judged by others? Some are here for the sole purpose to be understood. Because it's the only place where they're understood.

So let's leave cliches out of this site. 

mggsbms wrote:

There are many motives

Another one, a wise man said
"It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to serve as a warning to others"

Shlomo24 wrote:

In participation we avoid topics that can lead to dissection or distraction.. I not the we....explicit... May so signify by quietly raising their hand.....
I AM SILENTLY RAISING MY HAND

doingtshuva wrote on 06 Apr 2016 10:57:

Tshuva,I like number 1. I do not have a mikva or JCC by me.  So I go to the YMCA. And I always see other kids my age. I really do not compare them to me.
But I know that when they marry, they will find happiness with their  size. Same with me.
 
It doesn't matter. Because gentiles have sex all the time. I believe that HaShem is always testing us to see what we will do.  We Jews are supposed to do mitzvos and worry about our beautiful Neshama. Not looking at who is cuter or who is bigger. Trivial matters do not matter to 
HaShem. He cares about what we do with our soul, and so should we.

With this I am getting off at Shabbos  road. lol. Mark, see what you started with me. I use truckinology all the time now.
BEEP BEEP 

didannotzach wrote on 06 May 2016 10:16:


A wife will appreciate a husband that is not obsessed about sex, which you are slightly.

***viewer discretion advised***
If you want a great lust free marriage you can get that right here right now

Are you interested in joining us Trucking or Sailing in recovery?

Please let me know

Let's just say I've done some research on the topic in the bad old days.

1) The average length is a lot smaller than what you see on porn. A lot.
2) There is no relationship between size when flaccid and size when erect. So comparing in the mikvah is useless.
3) Not sure how to say it but you don't need much. 3 inches is fine.
4) Bear in mind that your wife will (hopefully) have no reference pont. She's not going to compare you to anyone else.

Btw, my feelings are like the kanaim here, but if the thread is staying up then I might as well put the  research I've done to good use.

To answer your question.

I'm not sure how old your are. But at certain stages in life (mostly around puberty and a drop after), especially if you're not from a yeshivish background and/or exposed to secular material where they stress size matters, it's somewhat common for guys to be curious if they're up to par down below. 

At my chosson shmooze the rabbi mentioned that he knows this topic is a concern for many. He said he's discussed this with urologists and explained that the size to please can be quite small (he also mentioned that almost all shapes are fine as well).

You'll be fine! 

Hatzlocha

Didon Natzach first and foremost you did the right thing in opening up in this forum. I am no therapist but let me assure you that your worry is purely based in Goyeshe philosophy. It is tru though that in Neviim we the pasuk : אשר בשר חמורים בשרם וזרמת סוסים זרמתם is referring  exactly to the point you brought. size of penis is solely important when the relationship is one of זנות.
Meaning that in a one night stand the only connection is physical. But in a relation between husband and wife the connection has to be  in all levels besides the physical there must be a mental, spiritual , love and union connection. If the wife feels that her husband loves her as a person not only her body. She would not care about sizes.
Besides hopefully you will get a competent guidance before you get married and you will be more ready about the subject.
If you feel there are more topics you will like to discuss feel free to write about them. Ahh i forget when i was a young boy , the general atmosphere where i came from was that masturbation helps to enlarge it. This is complete nonsense. There is so much shtussim that boys talk and  do . 
You need to worry only about your personal and spiritual growth not at all about your body parts.
Hatzlacha.

My (not-so-humble) opinion:

If this thread would have morphed into a chat concerning size etc. then it would be wholly inappropriate. But, thankfully, that did not happen here. The response he received was a gentle and loving prod toward focusing on what needs to be focused on. Therefore, not only isn't this a improper thread that should be removed, it may actually be quiet beneficial in teaching us how to think straight!!!

As to the original post, Didannotzach clearly states "I don't mean in any way to use words for wrong reasons I just want my point to get across clearly, I hope it's understood." Apparently, our friend GettingMarried did not understand it in the way that Didannotzach intended it. According to the way that he perceived the question his kano'as was well placed. As such, there is no room for anyone to get offended at all.

Mar amar chada, u'mar amar chada, v'lo pligi.

Wow. We are really getting an awakening from the dead here.

didannotzach wrote:



This is something that's bothered me as well. I just know that when it'll be nogeia l'maase, I'll have to make sure to get clarity, and to not hold back when I'm not sure of something. Otherwise I don't try to hard to dig into this stuff, although some more general things MIGHT be helpful for changing my attitude. There's still some anxiety some times, but i've generally been able to not focus on it so much.

didannotzach wrote on 11 May 2016 06:04:


markz wrote on 06 Apr 2016 05:44:

Didon

I have input to give you on the questions you asked earlier today, but remember we are here first and foremost to recover from Porn and Mast*
Which is why before we continue the conversation I kindly ask you to answer what was raised above

How has your P&M been the past 2 months?

Can I kindly request that you keep all your story on one thread (and not create many new ones), so we can help you with what's going on in your head