hello,im new to this program, and unfortunately i am drowning in my sea of averios. i have always wanted to stop this terrible sin of wasting seed but my yetzer hara always gets the best of me,But on the other hand im glad i joined this program because its a start and its almost the end..

i was in your position 2 weeks ago...you dont specify your problem exactly so its hard to help(e.g. do you have access to the worst of the internet or do you already have a filter).personally iwas being motzi zera le vatolah basically every day and now 2 weeks later im 8 days clean...best run in 1 and a half years....

HOW DID I DO IT???
basically started with basic kabala like this....every time i intentionally begin to arouse myselfby whatever ...the next day i have to say however many kappitelach tehilim(i did 40)and whos got that much time on any given day and if i dont do the tehillim then i must give a significant sum of money to tzedaka(i give the tzedaka on tnai lechatchila if i fall and dont say the tehillim) .so..who wants to part with their money so fast...

I fell, once said the tehillim and 'i havent looked back'.

Additionally i joined a call group for the 12 steps.was hard to start but is brilliant. its good for stopping lust and generally..

GO ON AND AND START LIVING THE REAL LIFE!!!!!!!!!!

NeedHelp,
Welcome.
Soon the experts here will give you some real advice, but in the meanwhile try to take it slowly, to stay clean one day at a time. Slow and simple, that's the name of the game.
Your Friend,
MB

Sholom aleichem NH!

Take my word (and then prove it on your own) - finally there is hope, and it's called GYE. Stick around, read the handbook, read the posts, keep on posting, and be"H you'll see the light shining brightly at the end of this dark tunnel.

And as Moshe Rabbeinu told his shver:

נוסעים אנחנו אל המקום אשר אמר ה' אותו אתן לכם

We [at GYE] are journeying towards the destination which Hashem said, “I will help you attain that level [of Kedusha/recovery]

לכה אתנו והטבנו לך

Please join us, and we will share our good fortune with you.

“Thank you for choosing GYE, and have a successful journey.”

MT

Machshovo wrote on 04 May 2012 14:01:

MT, we at GYE interpret that passuk to mean "We are trucking to Hashem's destination"- we don't look back, we KOT [keep on trucking]
oh and by the way "need help 101"- you'll get it, stick around here- it's a wonderful place!!!!

TehillimZugger wrote on 04 May 2012 14:18:


Mein tayer kind (or einikel), TZ:

Yodati bni yodati, I read and chapp the lingo around here, but when you reach my age (quite over the hill, biz 120), you will also opt for a senior scooter instead (do they come with monstuh wheels?).

BTW mein kind/einikel, when Zaidy was young, we used the trolly and push-carts (oy did they make a racket!).

Bottom line is like Dr. Suess would say, "Marvin K. Mooney, you can go by plane, you can go by train... Just keep (whatever)ing".

Thanx for bearing with me (as this week's Parsha says - Respect your elders),

Shabbat Shalom

MT

Hi MT.

Try here: http://www.monsterscooterparts.com/mobility.html ;D

Good Shabbos and KOMS!!!!

Gevura!

it is very difficult for me to keep on posting i rate my recovery on how much i post it has not a lot to do with sobriety but with inner attitudes and the guys on this sight are the ONLY ones who can restore us too sanity you'll see the best place in this world is here talking with these "balei tshuva"

tocontrolmyself wrote on 03 May 2012 23:06:



i hear what ur saying but why doesnt ur yetzer hara tell u not to say it or not to pay? i mean if it can get u to look which is the worst...y cant it tell u to just not say the tehilem or pay? this is y im afraid of making any neder or wtvr

happyjew wrote on 15 May 2012 16:06:

It depends. Does your YH make you surf the net on shabbos? why not?
...

bec in my head chillul shabbos is out of q...but to not say a few perakim of tehillim? eh who cares..its not as bad as looking on shabbos...

Our problem is that we can't reprogram our heads with regard to porn- our heads are damaged, but if we never transgressed a shavua [to say tehillim] there is no reason to start transgressing shavuos now....

but a shevua is not so chamur in my head like shabbos

only by a shevua does the Torah say:כי לא ינקה ה' את את אשר ישא את שמו לשוא.
But Shabbos is kares, so there both pretty heavy.

happyjew wrote on 15 May 2012 16:49:


One of my Rebbeim said, when we started learning Maseches Nedarim/Shevuos, that saying a Shevua B'Sheim is like comparing your word to Hashem's existence- that what you are saying is AS TRUE as Hashem. Meaning, no half-truths, misrepresenting or stretching, and of course no white lies, because Hashem is as true as truth gets.

It's a serious thing to say about a statement, which is why many people are scared to say any shevua at all.

Hope this helps you take it seriously.

By the way- Shabbos is a statement about Hashem's existence, too- they are similar.