Hi
I'm 20 and married and I love to where diapers I always dreamed to have them on me but never really got to where them (since I stop to wet the bed) but all way use to steel baby diapers and massterbate in them but never got to have adult diapers
Wean I was in yesheva in dorm I always use to sneak in baby diapers in my room and wear them at night but did not fit me I just won't to fell it and once I even found a all pack of diapers in the garbage next to the dorm at night wean everyone was asleep I headed in the dorm and use to take one and use it for a few nights and them change one
Later on I start to search on the net . . . and started everyday to look at porn.
I always wone to talk to someone abut this but was to shy to tell someone about it I'm looking to stop it and I can't I need help I cand stop it every time I c diapers I have to massterbate I'm secret to have kids like this I don't wone have sipers in my house it will b dangers for me
I told my wife about it and she was not very happy to here it but I promise her to get over it and ill stop loving diapers and stop to search porn but its impossible I need help urgent I can't go like this anymore every time I'm going to the grocery I have to pass the diapers a few times
Its crazy I can't any more I need HELP!!!!!!! Pleas someone HELP ME......

Welcome to GYE!

One's precise fetish or object of obsession is besides the point: If it's making your life unmanageable, harming your marriage, or causing you to do Devarim Asurim, then you would be wise to get help.  Use the tools available on this site - they can help give you freedom and sanity.

Hatzlacha!

Dear davie,

I have a family memeber who had this issue but grew out of it. This is not something very rare or strange, I dont htink you are wierd and i suspect you will find others who have struggled with this issue on GYE and that will give you support.
There may be something going way back when you were a child, is it possible you were the youngest in the family for a while and then your mother had another baby and now you are no longer the baby of the family and you do this because you yearn for that time when you had a lot of love?
I think it would be fair to say that the common aspect with everyone here is that we missed out on a healthy amount of love that we needed and never got over it...

You are loved here, and we will help you get through this. you are not alone !!!

You are never alone, Hashem is always right here, we just need to be in tune...

HY

Davied,

Welcome!  You are certainly not alone here.  I had a fetish for something that wasn't exactly sexual.  Whatever initiated your obsession with diapers is no longer the point.  What's important now is that you have built a strong association between diapers and sexual pleasure, through repeated masturbation.  If I were to masturbate while looking at doorknobs a hundred times, then doorknobs would start to turn me on.

Fortunately, the way out is the same, and the tools you will find on this site will work for you if you work them.  On the homepage, take a look at the 12 steps, under the "materials" heading.

You can get through this, and have children and change their diapers without getting triggered.  It will take hard work and commitment.  Ready?

Alex

Thanks for all advise I really feel good that u all understand me but odd really wone to talk to someone ho has the same problem hop I can fine somone

alexeliezer wrote on 06 Jan 2012 17:33:


Alex,

what exactly is the process of curing oneself from a particular fetish?
Is working on the 12 steps alone, enough to cure one, or are there other steps and tools that help with this process?

Kidushashem,
I should first correct something I said above.  I said I had a fetish.  I still have it.  If I were to allow myself to think about it (or look at photos of it, etc), it would make me crazy with lust.  It's still right here.

I don't know of any way to cure it.  I only know how to be in recovery from it.  And it's the same process as recovering from lust in general.  Because that's all it really is.  It's my ultimate trigger to start lusting.  (I have many triggers, this is just my favorite / most severe).  For me, working the 12 steps did the trick.  And whenever thoughts of my fetish came, I got right to work davening, begging Hashem to take my thoughts and my lust, to fight my lust for me.  Because I am truly powerless over it.

And Davied, much as I'd love to discuss my fetish with others in recovery, I see no point.  Other than to get excited.  I know I'm not the only one with it.  I haven't checked in a few years, but there were magazines dedicated to it, and over 100 websites catered to it.  The numbers may not be as high for your fetish, but trust me, you have plenty of company in your obsession.

Wishing you both much syata dishmaya in your recovery.
Alex

thanks alex
btw loving diapers is just one of my fetish. most of the time i mass. i dont have diapers i just fantesis abut them and i do have more fetish i dont know if working on the diapers will take me out of all fetish ill still have them what can i do to get rid off all of them????

davied wrote on 08 Jan 2012 14:38:


Recovery from lust will include recovery from all you fetishes.
Take a look at the first few of the 12 steps.  If they're not making sense, you might want to join a live SA group near you.  Start davening for guidance in your recovery either way.

i dont really know how to get to the 12 steps im still looking for it........

www.guardureyes.com/GUE/12Steps/12Steps.asp

HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!
im trying to get to 12 stepsand dont know how to work on this side i thank h' for guiding me to this side but dont have a clue how to work on it is there somone to talk and lear me how to do it???????

Here's a link where you can search for a live 12-step meeting near you.

www.sa.org/top/

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Hi
I can't get the links to work in the message above, so follow this link to the original post
http://www.guardyoureyes.org/forum/index.php?topic=3677.0
Good luck!