I don't know where (but I can find it) Duvid Ha'melech had a friend (holy yid) who was triggered by seeing even a color. (I was told this by a rosh yeshiva and can find out more if u need).. I don't think ur that crazy. Regardless, it's always good to Guard Our Eyes :-)

Right, we ARE fighting something huge and abnormal. But if I lose, and lose, and lose, that changes me for the worst. I become a monster who views things in completely skewed ways.
No one's saying that we as a generation are at fault. We have historically unprecedented exposure. At the same time, we can't go ahead and justify it and say it's normal, and ignore the issue. The metzius is that we are (sorry!) monsters, and as such, we must be aware of this, especially when dealing with those with more mainstream hormones and thought processes.

K, maybe the term monster is a little extreme, but it's sometimes not too far off.....

Hey, SS, why did you edit that post?

It seemed too harsh, and came from a very tired mind. 'Part' of you may be a monster indeed... All of you!?!?! I doubt it (we say 'dan es KOL ha'adam l'kaf zechus'.. Yes, even the 'monster' part.. The good part of you the mishna doesn't need to tell us about)

All of you, part of you, call it what you want. The bottom line remains that the more a person exposes himself to filth, the more his mind grows acccustomed to thinking in those terms. So yes, it makes a lot of sense for a lust addict to see inappropriate images in perfectly innocent ones. His mind wanders to places the average person can't even dream of imagining.

"average person" .. I assume u mean average jew in a family jewish community.. Most of the planet aint so moral (to put it VERY mildly).. We're just blessed to have a Torah ... Either way,' what do u do now' is the question.(Anyway right now I'm wiped out and BH I don't have lust overtaking me, I do however need a good nap!)

Enjoy your sleep!

Hey guys, Im a little crabby thiis morning, ive been waiting for a shidduch to get back and this morning she did! I often experience anxiety and even OCD symptoms which can be quite painful. Im wondering if anyone experiences such feelings and what you do to break free of living in your brain which is a tremendous issue for me.
Luuustig

Luuustig, what kind of anxiety are you experiencing? About whether she'll say yes after she does her research about you? Or - after a date, will she want to go out again...? Either way, it's an issue. As a bachur in the parsha as well(you and I have discussed this before),i understand what you're saying, and can associate with it as well. I'm just not sure which issue I should be addressing. Can you be a little bit more specific?

Seems healthy and normal to me... Very annoying, but normal

SS, there's natural normal anxiety, and then there's someone being obsessive about something. Being overly obsessive is a disorder. (although we have no idea necessarily if that is the case here...)

Being overly obsessive is IS more natural i think..'Healthy anxiety' I believe, just aint as 'normal' as it should be..u seem to have good 'ideals' in ur heart and mind, but there seems to be much more dysfunction around than you are acknowledging really exists.. 'Healthy' is the goal.. But it unfortunately just aint so normal...(Clinical obsession is obviously cause for alarm... But average people mamosh drive themselves crazy over stupid stuff all day long, all across the world)

:-) ur a bachur (in yeshiva?) Way above average! The crem de'la crem!

I actually do suffer from a bit of OCD, I was in therapy for over a year. The therapy did help baruch hashem, but I still do suffer from it. I dont think it ever really goes away though I wish it would. My main issue is doubt. I can suffer from moments of what if....
Its very common by halacha issues. It says "ain simcha k'hataras hasfakus". I am medayak and say ain yisurim k'sfaikus. Its a very painful ssue for me but it feel good to just get it off my chest. I know I was given this particular challenge for a reason, just like my lust issue. i dont know if there is a connection between the two, but who knows.