joeross275 wrote on 28 Dec 2017 04:20:

Hey joeross, how's it goin'?

Just saying hi

Hi,
Welcome to GYE. Would you like to share a little about yourself, or maybe start your own thread (only if you're comfortable). 
Much Hatzlacha on your journey

Antzh1977 wrote on 16 Sep 2018 17:49:

Hi to you too!
Its a few years since 1977. Time to take out a mortgage on a Truck, and get rolling. Start your own thread and keep us posted :-)

hi i am new  and i am struggling but i have not given up hope! i have fallen so many times before and now i feel like its finally time that i can break free!
My hope is to eventually get on the wall of honor, may hashem help me and all of us.
I feel like i can use some chizzuk from anyone that can offer. 
All the best.

Welcome. It should be with hatzlocha.

You came to the right place! You will find support and helpful ideas here.

It's so great that you haven't given up hope. It's so easy to when you feel so overwhelmed and out of control, but I'm telling you from my own experiences and the experiences of thousands of people here that you can regain control.

My best tip is to view every single time you hold back as a thrilling achievement (as if you finished a masechta) rather than as a streak of clean days that you haven't messed up on. And don't get too down from a fall. Focus on your accomplishments.

(If you need help changing your perspective, check these out: 1. The Battle of the Generation:https://guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation. 2. The Fight by Rabbi Ben Zion Shafier: https://theshmuz.com/series/the-fight/.)

I am 50 years old and been watching porn and excessively masturbating since i was 8.  I have alot of work to do to clear my brain and restore my marraige.  Just wanted to say how grateful i am to have a wonderful program like this.

Courageous post buddy! Keep it up.

Ybnrml wrote on 16 Dec 2019 23:52:

Clear and to the point! There will be ups and downs. Just go with it. If you find you are questioning yourself and unsure of where to go next, just remember that there are people here that can answer your questions and that davening always helps! 

Ybnrml wrote on 16 Dec 2019 23:52:

Welcome to GYE.  I suggest that you start your own thread so you, as well as the rest of us, can track your progress.  As Bego stated, there will be many ups and downs, but don't give up hope and I"H you will get past this challenge. 

Hello everyone. This is my second try now. The first time I didn't post at all but I made it to 90 days. After that I found it much harder and I didn't keep it up. Now I am back after a long time of not really trying. I thought I should post on the forum this time for some extra encouragement.

fr33et wrote on 28 Jul 2020 02:29:

Welcome back! Posting is a great idea. Why don't you start a new thread- just press new topic, and share your story, struggles and successes. 

I just want to share a feeling I've been having lately.

Recently there's been a movement on the forum to suggest that a newcomer should immediately start calling people. Many people are writing, that the only real way to kick this habit long-term, is by actually picking up the phone and opening up to somebody. It is a suggestion at the tip of many tongues (fingertips?).

Whether that's true or not, I feel it may be detrimental to suggest that to a beginner. Initially when starting to post, we were all slightly hesitant, and weren't sure if what we were doing was the smartest move (at least I was). Eventually after receiving warm welcomes, and starting to grow utilizing this site, we realized that GYE is a safe place and the proper answer.

In my experience, when I joined, were everyone to immediately suggest that without calling someone, there is no chance of true recovery, I would have just left the site. If whenever I posted about a difficult moment, the response would have been call, call, call,  I wouldn't have thought myself ever capable of exposing myself like that, and would have given up. Until a person hangs around for a while, learns the many things GYE has to offer, and creates relationships, imagining opening up to a live person is unfathomable.

I think that maybe when a person initially joins this site, we should first welcome them, share with them the knowledge we have, and eventually, at a later date, if they need a little bit more help, it can be explained to them how speaking to an experienced member, (or actually even meeting face-to-face) can be extremely beneficial.

Just a thought.

                                 Grant

Excellent point.