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How do I break the cycle if i have mental issues? 02 Jan 2024 02:49 #406117

farblunjet OFFLINE Expert Boarder Posts: 131 Karma: 4	I suffer from ASD (autism-spectrum-disorder) so it's very hard for me to connect with people.And when i avoid the shmutz i start to feel lonely and disconnected and depressed.What do i do?
	Longest clean streak: 11 days Last Edit: 02 Jan 2024 04:19 by farblunjet.

Re: How do I break the cycle if i have mental issues? 02 Jan 2024 02:54 #406120

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i don't know much about ASD. i am sorry for your loneliness. hopefully posting here can help.
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Re: How do I break the cycle if i have mental issues? 02 Jan 2024 02:58 #406121

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To clarify, ASD includes high-functioning autistic people. meaning, you wouldn't necessarily be able to tell that they have any disorder if you conversed with them. But they can have trouble connecting with people on an emotional level.To clarify, ASD includes high-functioning autistic people. meaning, you wouldn't necessarily be able to tell that they have any disorder if you conversed with them. But they can have trouble connecting with people on an emotional level ( among other issues)

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Last Edit: 02 Jan 2024 04:13 by farblunjet.

Re: How do I break the cycle if i have mental issues? 02 Jan 2024 03:28 #406125

redfaced Current streak: 581 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1128 Karma: 55	This thread by markz may be helpful guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/263954
	May you slide down the banister of happiness and get many splinters of success up your career Feel free to send me an owl, a howler, or even a Crumple-Horned Snorkack to Iamredfaced@gmail.com The Red Face

Re: How do I break the cycle if i have mental issues? 02 Jan 2024 04:12 #406128

youknowwho OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 527 Karma: 57	redfaced wrote on 02 Jan 2024 03:28: This thread by markz may be helpful guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/263954 Thanks redfaced! Just went through this, Markz- AMAZING!!

Re: How do I break the cycle if i have mental issues? 03 Jan 2024 03:30 #406221

farblunjet OFFLINE Expert Boarder Posts: 131 Karma: 4	Yes very interesting. Ty for sharing
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Re: How do I break the cycle if i have mental issues? 03 Jan 2024 03:40 #406223

farblunjet OFFLINE Expert Boarder Posts: 131 Karma: 4	going on 8 days clean now which is very rare. But I'm lonely and heading now to my bad crowd to hang out and get some socializing. Not married. i feel like if i had somewhere to go i could go clean for much longer
	Longest clean streak: 11 days

Re: How do I break the cycle if i have mental issues? 03 Jan 2024 03:47 #406226

Hashem Help Me Current streak: 2918 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 4058	Maybe put some effort in getting in with a healthier crowd.
	Feel free to contact me at michelgelner@gmail.com My threads: Lessons Learned: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/335248-Lessons-Learned My Story and G-d Bless GYE: guardyoureyes.com/forum/17-Balei-Battims-Forum/303036-My-story-and-G-d-bless-GYE

Re: How do I break the cycle if i have mental issues? 03 Jan 2024 07:04 #406249

farblunjet OFFLINE Expert Boarder Posts: 131 Karma: 4	I don't even know where to begin. Ive tried joining a few shiurim here and there but its just that , shourim . I need something deeper
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Re: How do I break the cycle if i have mental issues? 03 Jan 2024 12:15 #406253

Hashem Help Me Current streak: 2918 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 4058	Do you have a connection with a rav where you live? Or some other well connected person in the community? Whatever the case, stay away from a crowd that pulls you down. May be try to reach out to some guys here. It's not a replacement for real face to face friends, but you would be surprised how in a lonely moment chaverim from here can be a real boost.
	Feel free to contact me at michelgelner@gmail.com My threads: Lessons Learned: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/335248-Lessons-Learned My Story and G-d Bless GYE: guardyoureyes.com/forum/17-Balei-Battims-Forum/303036-My-story-and-G-d-bless-GYE

Re: How do I break the cycle if i have mental issues? 03 Jan 2024 14:09 #406263

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Therapy - someone experienced in teaching you how to make that bond with others. Theb go do some 1-on-1 chessed thing where you'll be working regularly with the same guy/kid

Therapist - during the course of the session you have the connection and chemistry with the therapist himself.

Skip the shiur and opt for a חברותה. Even if just to shmooze, make sure to do your learning some other time withe someone else