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It became my habit to masturbation 30 Jan 2023 09:57 #391396

IT BECAME MY HABIT

I need to masturbate to sleep. when I have insomnia it's because I don't masturbate. lust guides me to look for women to talk about sex.

Re: It became my habit to masturbation 31 Jan 2023 05:07 #391424

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Welcome holy brother! Glad you took the courage to post. Sounds like you have a pretty difficult situation creating a strong pressure to masturbate and haven't been too successful solving it.

Hopefully you can gain insights here of strategies and solutions as well as a group of warm friends of can give emotional support!
Hatzlocha!
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אלמלא הקב"ה עוזרו לא יכול לו
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Re: It became my habit to masturbation 31 Jan 2023 18:11 #391429

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darielhelme553 wrote on 30 Jan 2023 09:57:
IT BECAME MY HABIT

I need to masturbate to sleep. when I have insomnia it's because I don't masturbate. lust guides me to look for women to talk about sex.

Welcome to GYE! Let's hope you'll find the right guidance and support within this amazing community. 
The first thing I would suggest is to change the wording in your post...
You wrote: "I need to masturbate to sleep. " you can change it to: "I feel like I need to masturbate to sleep. " --- see the difference?
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Re: It became my habit to masturbation 02 Feb 2023 19:57 #391527

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I have the opposite habit. I cant get out of bed without masturbating. 
if you tell me how to get out of bed in the morning without M i will tell you how i go to sleep without M.

Re: It became my habit to masturbation 02 Feb 2023 23:35 #391535

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 *  NO, It's not all or nothing, just every bit counts!
 *  I failed yesterday, and I might fail tomorrow. But just for today I'm going to give it a try.
 *  Being curios made me lust and get into trouble.

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Re: It became my habit to masturbation 05 Feb 2023 00:38 #391569

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Thank you for sharing!!!  You are on your way to changing your life for the better.



What works for me:  I sleep less 



I don't say that to be glib or dismissive or sardonic.  It's just what works for me.  I go to bed early and wake up when it is still dark.

Also exercise helps.  It doesn't have to be going to the gym.  It can just be a walk around the block no matter what, even in cold weather.  Find a cafe that you like.  It's my understanding that black coffee with no flavoring is always kosher from anywhere, if that helps.  Ask your rabbi for how he poskens for you.

Consider a pet.  Attending to the pet's needs distracts me in a good and beneficial way.

Re: It became my habit to masturbation 14 Feb 2023 15:34 #392064

If I refrain from porn and masterbation, does the lust go away?

Re: It became my habit to masturbation 14 Feb 2023 17:13 #392068

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Everyone's different, but for me it does at times. Other times not. But after some time it does become much more manageable. When we're deep in it, it always pops back up full force and so hard to ignore.

Re: It became my habit to masturbation 20 Feb 2023 15:33 #392361

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darielhelme553 wrote on 30 Jan 2023 09:57:
IT BECAME MY HABIT

I need to masturbate to sleep. when I have insomnia it's because I don't masturbate. lust guides me to look for women to talk about sex.

@darielhelme553, u sleeping?? Wakey wakey.........
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