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Where's my roar? 09 Jan 2022 16:25 #375717

Hey,

I fell.

I gave a woman I know a ride and when I handed her something, our hands touched. Once I got home I masturbated with that thought in mind
Restarting my 2 day streak. 

Whimper.

Any ideas to avoid a repeat? I feel like the slightest provocation is enough to get me to look at or do forbidden things, there's very little separation between the initial arousel and actually acting out. I have very little gevura, I'm like flowing water, not like a rock, I'm not much of a lion, I'm more of a coward, falling at the Yetzer Hara's slightest suggestion, I'm almost like his right hand man - he commands and without much hesitation I fulfil his command

Sad. 
Roaring for the Geula - Prati'im = mine & yours - Klalli = All of us and the Shechina!
k'Ari yishag al noviehu!
 I Love my brothers and fellow warriors!
Were in this fight to win it, though the setbacks don't finish it, he wants to see are hearts and souls in it, he's with us in the thick of it - he sent us into it in the 1st place - in the 49 maybe even 50th! It's preparation for the finish line, how great and sublime is this time! We humble warriors can and will do it with his help, lets go on we go!!! I'm there with you brother, please be with me as well, together we will heave and ho, until the line is broke. Okay folks, I'd better get to bed it's now 1.5 hours past my bedtime and I must do my part to keep my Bi-Polar in check, Hashem will do it all, just I cannot press pause, I must do mine for the cause
Love you all! Good Night! Soon to be Boker  Tov when he creates a light for us all - ohr 7 yemei beraishis...
Last Edit: 09 Jan 2022 16:28 by gibbor kari.

Re: Where's my roar? 09 Jan 2022 17:20 #375718

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When a person stops acting on his cues, the brain begins to disassociate these triggers, and they become weaker. This is because of neuroplasticity, in which neural pathways are constantly being formed and reorganized in the brain. Just as repeated use creates neural pathways (bundling cues together with unhealthy behaviors), abstaining from acting out when confronted with cues causes these unhealthy pathways to fade away.

You can create new neural pathways by choosing healthier behaviors when cued (like exercising or calling a friend when stressed), which bundles these cues with healthier behaviors. Over time, these new, healthier responses become easier and more automatic. 
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Re: Where's my roar? 09 Jan 2022 19:17 #375724

DavidT wrote on 09 Jan 2022 17:20:
When a person stops acting on his cues, the brain begins to disassociate these triggers, and they become weaker. This is because of neuroplasticity, in which neural pathways are constantly being formed and reorganized in the brain. Just as repeated use creates neural pathways (bundling cues together with unhealthy behaviors), abstaining from acting out when confronted with cues causes these unhealthy pathways to fade away.

You can create new neural pathways by choosing healthier behaviors when cued (like exercising or calling a friend when stressed), which bundles these cues with healthier behaviors. Over time, these new, healthier responses become easier and more automatic. 

EMES!!!
“Distancing and removing triggers is only bringing the door closer..Changing the insides and our nature is the key to get in.” 

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Re: Where's my roar? 09 Jan 2022 20:55 #375732

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Get a chaver to hold your hand and guide you through this.
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