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Don't Want To Stop 12 Apr 2021 00:22 #366691

WarriorNGU
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I really want to stop masturbating. I have thought about why I want to stop, how it makes me feel after etc. The problem is that once the urge comes I lose all my convictions of how I want to stop and additionally I want to masturbate and satisfy my urge. I even made a neder that before I masturbate I have to read a note I wrote explaining why I want to stop and how I'm going to feel bad after, but would just speed read through it and not pay attention to what I was reading, cause I was scared if I would read it maybe I would end up not masturbating. I really want to stop cause I'm already 20 and i feel that I'm really hurting myself as a person and also my future marriage IYH. Any ideas?

Last Edit: 12 Apr 2021 00:26 by WarriorNGU. Reason: spelling

Re: Don't Want To Stop 12 Apr 2021 02:57 #366695

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I sent you a private message - do you know how to access that?

Wishing you much hatzlocha

Think about how good you'll feel if you say no to desire and compare that to how bad you'll feel if you say yes.

Desire is unique in the way that it is never fulfilled - if you give in the desire comes back even more powerful in just a few days. Telling yourself that its ok because this is really the last time doesn't work because you are just adding new images to your head that will cause future falls.

The Joy of triumph over the yetzer hara is worth the effort it takes to win. It IS worth it! Keep fighting!

My thread:
Aiming to be better

Feel free to contact me at evedhashem1836@gmail.com

Re: Don't Want To Stop 12 Apr 2021 08:05 #366703

Striving Avreich Current streak: 2 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 216 Karma: 13	Hey! Welcome! An essential part of this is getting a mentor, someone to talk to and engage with who knows the ins and outs of this and has helped many people. I'd suggest calling R' HHM. If you would like his number, let me know. He has helped many many people on GYE

Re: Don't Want To Stop 12 Apr 2021 08:33 #366706

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Welcome to the forum.
We share the same initials WNGU, so we may have something in common.

Not much to add, just saying hi. If you are new here, don't be shy, take a look around, check out the tools that the site offers and take a look at the GYE handbook. Post, share ad read through other guys threads, you will find that you are not alone in this struggle and that there is help. It can be done and has been by many guys here.

Looking forward to hearing more from you.

All the best,
Wilnevergiveup

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Re: Don't Want To Stop 13 Apr 2021 01:32 #366743

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Hi! Welcome! Why don't you check out these great free resources?

The Battle of the Generation guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation. It's a very popular ebook on this fight.

Rabbi Shafier's incredible lectures on breaking free: The Fight. Download here: theshmuz.com/series/the-fight/

Edit: sorry, the app is messing up the links. Please use the links in my signature below. They seem to be working.