So, being that it seems our SSA forum isn't coming back anytime soon, perhaps this thread can serve as a platform for ssa posters, who are looking for some understand from fellow strugglers. Although everyone in this site can appreciate the struggle of an inappropriate billboard, not everyone can appreciate the strugglers the happen in shul during chazrus ha'shatz. 

Hatzlacha to all who struggle with todays mik minhag... We need to stay focused on the purpose and get outathere.  Any particular advice...? 

Yeah...

get in and out as quickly as possible.

Glasses first off and last on. 

Face the wall as much as possible. 

Try to avoid looking at faces. Then you will not be able to connect the inevitable glimpses of other things to the person afterwards and it will help avoid fantasies. 

A Gmar Chasima Tova and an easy fast to all

stillgoing wrote on 18 Sep 2018 02:50:

Thanks for your share. Not sure what the issues are about not keeping the SSA section on the site.......but i have definitely benefited from hearing from other program brothers who struggle with SSA. So I am wondering what opportunities exist for continuing our "chabura" for the purpose of mutual support in a confidential venue.Any ideas? What about a google group? btw i have difficulty getting on the website due to filter blocks on my work computer.

aryehdovid85 wrote on 18 Sep 2018 15:49:

Perhaps others will disagree, to me the idea of a confidential google group between ssa members who may possibly have an (attraction) issue with another member, is a risky one. Yes, it would be for the "purpose of mutual support", but it can also be used for the opposite. Similar to the days when the gye fourm was co-ed, just without the moderators...

aryehdovid85 wrote on 18 Sep 2018 15:49:

It's a bad idea. You really need to start sharing on the forum but without being graphic and without revealing personally identifying details. It's comical to refrain from telling a straigh sex addict about our attraction to men. Think about that.

This happens in in-person meetings too, sex addicts are not well received among alcoholics, and it's b.s.

mzl wrote on 20 Sep 2018 18:35:

If they're not well received, then it's not b.*.

stillgoing wrote on 20 Sep 2018 22:36:

The behavior of rejecting you because your desires are too low for me is to be avoided at all costs by someone who wishes to get over his addiction. Therefore if you are a weirdo and desire to have sex with meerkats you benefit everybody by being here, right in the face of the idiots that made you feel not well received.

I don't think that "It's comical to refrain from telling a straigh sex addict about our attraction to men."​
If I'm not going to be "well received" then why do you say that I "really need to start sharing on the forum​"

stillgoing wrote on 18 Sep 2018 02:50:

Looks like the SSA forum is back up ...please keep this thread going though - good shaklah vetarya..

stillgoing wrote on 21 Sep 2018 05:32:

Because the people not receiving you well are being extremely silly. A Jew is from the other side, he stands in the face of adversity and changes the bad world around them instead of the other way around.