[please share if u have a real story.

holykosher wrote on 31 May 2018 03:01:

I think in general it doesn't make a difference. It's not porn or masturbation or the wife that is the cause of all our problems...

Can you tell me - are you married?
i assume not. 
So the shadchan has given you a selection to choose from..,
Whatcha gonna tell the shadchan - "I'll go with #25 because she's less pretty than the other"? Maybe he's heard that before, maybe not...

holykosher wrote on 31 May 2018 03:01:

I had a beautiful wife; it was Hell.

I have a non-beautiful wife; it is Hell.

Draw your own conclusions.

holykosher wrote on 31 May 2018 03:01:

Want to explain what you’re trying to find out? Is it because you’re married and your wife isn’t so pretty and you’re thinking it would be easier? Is it because you’re not married and you’re wondering if you should be actively looking for a very pretty girl?

I remember when I was in the car with a “high class” guy whose wife is reputed to be very pretty; I mean how would I know?

Anyway, we’re driving in a lower class neighborhood and there is this girl, not so tznius, not so pretty, and I see his head completely tun to her. And I’m like, “Oh my, I guess it doesn’t help.”

cordnoy wrote on 31 May 2018 10:54:

Sounds like my wife is related to both of yours.

Cord
You basically live in hell or what?

Eyeglasses wrote on 31 May 2018 16:56:

You should only know.

lol
I hope this aint the case

guardyoureyes.com/articles/rabbi-twerski/item/shekker-hachein

Eyeglasses wrote on 31 May 2018 18:14:

What does hope accomplish?

Chord ur always great 

cordnoy wrote on 31 May 2018 18:11:

hey, look at the bright side, at least youre not the one whose married to a lust addict! 

hi,im sorry that im not posting an answer to what you asked , but on the topic of  one lusting at women more beautiful than thier  wives,it happens to be that a person can have a beautiful wife and due to his gazing at other women  when he looks back at his wife , behold the beauty has disappeared!(or has diminished somewhat).
What i mean to say is,sometimes a person can feel that other women are nicer looking ,but if a person works on his marriage, he can  once again see that beauty ,that he once did see in his wife,plus the good ma`alos that she has ,and every wife has good ma`alos!you just have to learn how to look for them,besides the fact that Hashem DOES give a grace in the eyes of a spouse that is not there in the passing beautiful woman,you just have to want to see it,and if you want  enough ,youll find it!
After looking over what i wrote ,im not sure if its exactly what you were addressing,but i think it has some connection.
Hatzlacha.

[quote="holykosher" post=331564 date=1527735709 catid=1]Hi Can anyone tell me, for real not just because we are supposed to say a certain way.
im married b"h. does it make a difference?, help or make it harder (in terms of lust nisyonos) if u have a beautiful wife? or the other way when not. but only from your own experience i want to get real stories from personal experience. [please share if u have a real story.[/quote]
When I was going out with my wife, she was very beautiful. A semi-random guy even came over to me one day and told me that she is the "hottest girl" in the area. However, looking back, I was already messed up with lust and turning my head constantly to look at other women.  Without going in to detail, we did not get on very well once we were married.  I started resenting her and it made absolutely no difference that she was beautiful, besides for satisfying my lust addiction. Even then I sometimes imagined that I was with someone else. But I was also masturbating and fantasizing.  Today, many years later, my wife is not nearly as physically attractive as she used to be. I'm still addicted to lust and still turning my head to look at women the whole time. (I've started the 90 days program and trying to take some other steps to begin recovery.) So really nothing changed on my side and I've been married to a very beautiful woman and to the same one who became less attractive.  So to answer your question, the lust addiction is exactly that. It manifests itself regardless of how beautiful your wife is. 

Behatzlocha
WBF