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90 Days or 90 Years? 30 Nov 2009 21:11 #31312

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A huge motivator in making it to 90 days is to appreciate what the alternative is.

Suppose, I walked over with a sharp needle, and said that I wanted to stick it into your arm. You would likely refuse. What would happen, though, if I explained that I was going to vaccinate you against the swine flu or some other serious disease. You would likely agree. But what changed? Either way, you'd be feeling the pain of a needle stick!

The obvious answer is that it depends on what the alternative is. If there's no gain in being stuck with a needle, then why go through with it? However, if the alternative is a painful (and possibly deadly) disease, then it's well worth it!

The key motivator to making it to 90 days is to realize the painful alternative. If we keep falling every week (or every month), we'll be struggling for the rest of our lives. On the other hand, if we make it to 90 days without any falls (preferably without even slipping), although the challenge will never go away completely, it will be so much easier afterwards. Isn't it better to struggle for the next 90 days than to struggle for the next 90 years?

Along the same lines, as I posted elsewhere today, the point of being clean for 90 days is not to give us a hard time, but to make things easier for us. Think of other things that we could live without, but that make our life so much easier. Air conditioning in the summer. A car. Indoor plumbing. Electricity. And then, add to our list staying clean for 90 days! If we look at it that way, the y"h will have a heck of a time getting us to give in!

Just as an alcoholic needs to avoid that first sip, a lust addict needs to avoid that first slip.Slip today? No way! ;)Fall today? No way, Jose'!

Last Edit: 30 Nov 2009 21:55 by Asdfghjkl256.

Re: 90 Days or 90 Years? 01 Dec 2009 17:24 #31476

silentbattle Current streak: 1628 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 3734 Karma: 15	I like that! That's a great way of looking at it! I also want to mention another thing I really like - instead of running to the computer to check if I've gotten any emails from people I shouldn't be talking to, I'm now going to see what the newest posts are here.
	Last Edit: by Ben202.

Re: 90 Days or 90 Years? 02 Dec 2009 15:50 #31677

letakain OFFLINE Platinum Boarder KOTNMW Posts: 5036 Karma: 64	i guess making my life easier is hard... worth it but hard
	I am proud of myself today because of who I am becoming with progress, not perfection one day at a time I am a pickle, and I'll never be a cucumber again. and pickles are YUM! my thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/6-Women-on-the-way-to-90-Days/248941-Letakains-internet-addiction-journal Last Edit: by Dzilb.

Re: 90 Days or 90 Years? 02 Dec 2009 16:08 #31679

silentbattle Current streak: 1628 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 3734 Karma: 15	It is difficult, no doubt about that. But we're doing it, together!
	Last Edit: by smiletoday1234.

Re: 90 Days or 90 Years? 02 Dec 2009 17:33 #31688

jerusalemsexaddict	This is one of the most depressing threads I've ever seen.
	Last Edit: by yhsu.

Re: 90 Days or 90 Years? 02 Dec 2009 18:17 #31699

kedusha Current streak: 717 days OFFLINE Administrator Posts: 3167 Karma: 46	Uri wrote on 02 Dec 2009 17:33: This is one of the most depressing threads I've ever seen. Actually, I find it uplifting!
	Just as an alcoholic needs to avoid that first sip, a lust addict needs to avoid that first slip.Slip today? No way! ;)Fall today? No way, Jose'! Last Edit: by ntypnt2.

Re: 90 Days or 90 Years? 02 Dec 2009 18:35 #31703

letakain OFFLINE Platinum Boarder KOTNMW Posts: 5036 Karma: 64	uri, be quiet and go update the tehillim thread. We'll hang here we like saying that what we're doing is hard and that we're proud of ourselves! ;D
	I am proud of myself today because of who I am becoming with progress, not perfection one day at a time I am a pickle, and I'll never be a cucumber again. and pickles are YUM! my thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/6-Women-on-the-way-to-90-Days/248941-Letakains-internet-addiction-journal Last Edit: by shlm.

Re: 90 Days or 90 Years? 02 Dec 2009 20:19 #31726

kedusha Current streak: 717 days OFFLINE Administrator Posts: 3167 Karma: 46	letakain21 wrote on 02 Dec 2009 18:35: uri, be quiet and go update the tehillim thread. We'll hang here we like saying that what we're doing is hard and that we're proud of ourselves! ;D Thought I was saying that it's relatively easy - that is, 90 days compared to the alternative (90 years).
	Just as an alcoholic needs to avoid that first sip, a lust addict needs to avoid that first slip.Slip today? No way! ;)Fall today? No way, Jose'! Last Edit: by gye42.

Re: 90 Days or 90 Years? 02 Dec 2009 20:27 #31727

letakain OFFLINE Platinum Boarder KOTNMW Posts: 5036 Karma: 64	even 1 min is hard, kedusha. one minute at a time. just NOW
	I am proud of myself today because of who I am becoming with progress, not perfection one day at a time I am a pickle, and I'll never be a cucumber again. and pickles are YUM! my thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/6-Women-on-the-way-to-90-Days/248941-Letakains-internet-addiction-journal Last Edit: by ggggg.