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Shteeble's Close Range Firefight 12 Jan 2016 15:43 #274064

shteeble
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Please, Hashem, protect me from lust.
Please, Hashem, help me out of this situation.
Please, Hashem, provide me with the proper thoughts and actions.
Hashem, I surrender my desire for lust; over to You.
Hashem, please help me find in You what I am looking for in lust.
Please, Hashem, help me to desire to be close to You, rather than desiring lust.

Hashem can help me through this, no matter how I feel right now.
I am not running the show.
I don't want to be running the show.
Hashem is running the show.
I am in good hands.
All I want is the ratzon Hashem.

Ask of Hashem, the bakoshos listed above.
Reflect on the points listed above.
Use the bathroom - There is often a connection between the need for a bowel movement, and the onset of a sudden lust attack. How interesting...
Identify what you did that brought about the desire. Establish for yourself, beyond any doubt, that such action is very detrimental to you.
Drink Water You may be slightly dehydrated, which can cause RID.
Eat something. - Being hungry is often a source of RID.
Feelings - Identify your feelings of RID and address your true needs rather than covering them up with lust.
Rest - Ask yourself if you would benefit from a 10 minute nap on the couch, and if the answer is "yes," go for it.
Call a friend in recovery.

some of my threads

Last Edit: 18 Feb 2016 16:12 by shteeble.

Re: Shteeble's Close Range Firefight 12 Jan 2016 15:47 #274065

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I keep getting stuck at "X"...

Oops. This looks kinda silly now that you changed the original post entirely...

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www.guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/236327-Bigmoish-tries-to-be-good
www.guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/236329-Bigmoishs-path-to-tahara

"We have met the enemy and he is us" - Pogo
"Expectation is the mother of frustration" - gibbor120
"Today, damn it! Today!" - cordnoy
"Desiring is not a sin at all, but just a sign that you are not dead yet" - Dov
"We are our own worst observer" - eslaasos's therapist
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Last Edit: 12 Jan 2016 16:19 by bigmoish.

Re: Shteeble's Close Range Firefight 12 Jan 2016 16:14 #274067

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Re: Shteeble's Close Range Firefight 14 Jan 2016 14:12 #274282

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Shteeble wrote:

Ask Hashem for help.
Reflect on the fact that Hashem can help you through this, no matter how you feel.
Bathroom - There is often a connection between the need for a bowel movement, and the onset of a sudden lust attack. How interesting...
Identify what you did that brought about the desire. Establish for yourself, beyond any doubt, that such action is very detrimental to you.
Drink Water You may be slightly dehydrated, which can cause RID.
Eat something. - Being hungry is often a source of RID.
Feelings - Identify your feelings of RID and address your true needs rather than covering them up with lust.
Emergency Turn Off Button - the big red button found 40% down the page on your GYE Personal Homepage
Call a friend in recovery.
Imagine that today is your last.
Read - the GYE Handbook, white book, big book, etc.
Walk - Take a walk around the block.
Funnies - Read something that will make you laugh. GYE Funny Pages
Delay acting out. - Tell yourself, "I can always act out a little later."

Rabboisai,

I'm trying to grow this list. I need your help.
Please reply with your top 3 actions that you take when confronted with a lust attack, to keep from acting out (Thanks Bigmoish).

Thank you!

some of my threads

Last Edit: 14 Jan 2016 17:15 by shteeble.

Re: Shteeble's Close Range Firefight 14 Jan 2016 15:14 #274289

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Shteeble wrote:

Rabboisai,

I'm trying to grow this list. I need your help.
Please reply with your top 3 actions that you take when confronted with a lust attack.

Thank you!

1. Fantasize
2. Watch Porn
3. Masturbate

oh...did you mean 3 recovery actions?

Re: Shteeble's Close Range Firefight 14 Jan 2016 15:36 #274290

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Shteeble wrote:

Rabboisai,

I'm trying to grow this list. I need your help.
Please reply with your top 3 actions that you take when confronted with a lust attack.

Thank you!

1, As the song says "STOP! Don't think about it..." Replace your thoughts with others (and have a list of topics handy).
2, Be realistic, Get away from the situation that's causing the lust.
3, If your mind won't listen to you, just ignore it - go straight to the legs and turn them around and move them in the other direction. This will bring the rest of the body including the mind away from the trigger, but DON'T ASK THE MIND for permission!

Truth is that Bigmoish's list is probably closer to my reality.

BIG SHOT!
Free Choice?!
Yirai's Memories
STORY TIME :)

Dr. Seuss - You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. You're on your own, and you know what you know. And you are the guy who'll decide where to go.

FSKOT! (Fell Shmell--Keep on Trucking) (The Rebba R' Bards)

613stillgoing@gmail.com

Re: Shteeble's Close Range Firefight 14 Jan 2016 15:51 #274294

stillgoing OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1700 Karma: 157	Bigmoish wrote: I keep getting stuck at "X"... You might want to get out of the train tracks...! Warning: Spoiler!
	BIG SHOT! Free Choice?! Yirai's Memories STORY TIME :) Dr. Seuss - You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. You're on your own, and you know what you know. And you are the guy who'll decide where to go. FSKOT! (Fell Shmell--Keep on Trucking) (The Rebba R' Bards) 613stillgoing@gmail.com

Re: Shteeble's Close Range Firefight 14 Jan 2016 17:18 #274304

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stillgoing wrote:

Shteeble wrote:

Rabboisai,

I'm trying to grow this list. I need your help.
Please reply with your top 3 actions that you take when confronted with a lust attack.

Thank you!

Excellent.
And what about situations where it's more of a strong bodily urge, rather than thoughts or triggers?

some of my threads

Re: Shteeble's Close Range Firefight 14 Jan 2016 18:27 #274313

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Shteeble wrote:

stillgoing wrote:

Shteeble wrote:

Rabboisai,

I'm trying to grow this list. I need your help.
Please reply with your top 3 actions that you take when confronted with a lust attack.

Thank you!

Excellent.
And what about situations where it's more of a strong bodily urge, rather than thoughts or triggers?

My strong bodily urges are usually the result of triggers, I never act out for recreational purposes.

If you're an LGBTQ or LGBTQ-questioning person and looking for someone who can understand you, feel free to reach out. I promise no judgement and to try and listen the best I can.

Email: iam24zman@gmail.com

Re: Shteeble's Close Range Firefight 14 Jan 2016 19:06 #274317

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Shteeble wrote:

Rabboisai,

I'm trying to grow this list. I need your help.
Please reply with your top 3 actions that you take when confronted with a lust attack.

Thank you!

Okay, for real this time...

1. Send a whatsapp to another addict(s)/GYE guy(s) who knows me.
2. Send a hangouts/chat to another addict(s)/GYE guy(s) who knows me.
3. Call another addict(s)/GYE guy(s) who knows me.

When I'm in the middle of lusting, I'm not usually able to be rational enough to do the real important things like pray, surrender, post on GYE, or get out of my own head in general. But often, someone else who knows me can help me back away from the ledge.

Re: Shteeble's Close Range Firefight 15 Jan 2016 00:00 #274366

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Bigmoish wrote:

I keep getting stuck at "X"...

Oops. This looks kinda silly now that you changed the original post entirely...

Actually, it's a new thread altogether.
But it's geboyyt on the abc thread.
so i guess the 2 threads are related enough to affect the shidduch, and therefore you are correct in asking about the X, because it may determine whether someone wants to be a mechuten with this thread too.
This one is for the one's I plan on using lemaysah, when I'm at close range.
First item first . Second item second. vechulei.

some of my threads

Re: Shteeble's Close Range Firefight 15 Jan 2016 11:37 #274413

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Shteeble wrote:

Ask Hashem for help.
Reflect on the fact that Hashem can help you through this, no matter how you feel.
Bathroom - There is often a connection between the need for a bowel movement, and the onset of a sudden lust attack. How interesting...
Identify what you did that brought about the desire. Establish for yourself, beyond any doubt, that such action is very detrimental to you.
Drink Water You may be slightly dehydrated, which can cause RID.
Eat something. - Being hungry is often a source of RID.
Feelings - Identify your feelings of RID and address your true needs rather than covering them up with lust.
Emergency Turn Off Button - the big red button found 40% down the page on your GYE Personal Homepage
Call a friend in recovery.
Imagine that today is your last.
Read - the GYE Handbook, white book, big book, etc.
Walk - Take a walk around the block.
Funnies - Read something that will make you laugh. GYE Funny Pages
Delay acting out. - Tell yourself, "I can always act out a little later."

I'm trying to grow this list. I need your help.
Please reply with your top 3 actions that you take when confronted with a lust attack, to keep from acting out.

some of my threads

Re: Shteeble's Close Range Firefight 15 Jan 2016 12:10 #274414

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This is tried and tested!

1 - Take a chill pill

2- Take another

3- Throw one
Whoever doesn't know - that means, Post one for all the other chilled guys

4-

Warning: Spoiler!

Mark

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Re: Shteeble's Close Range Firefight 17 Jan 2016 16:20 #274556

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I'm trying to grow this list. I need your help.
Please reply with your top 3 actions that you take when confronted with a lust attack, to keep from acting out.

Shteeble wrote:

Ask Hashem for help.
Reflect on the fact that Hashem can help you through this, no matter how you feel.
Bathroom - There is often a connection between the need for a bowel movement, and the onset of a sudden lust attack. How interesting...
Identify what you did that brought about the desire. Establish for yourself, beyond any doubt, that such action is very detrimental to you.
Drink Water You may be slightly dehydrated, which can cause RID.
Eat something. - Being hungry is often a source of RID.
Feelings - Identify your feelings of RID and address your true needs rather than covering them up with lust.
Emergency Turn Off Button - the big red button found 40% down the page on your GYE Personal Homepage
Call a friend in recovery.
Imagine that today is your last.
Read - the GYE Handbook, white book, big book, etc.
Walk - Take a walk around the block.
Funnies - Read something that will make you laugh. GYE Funny Pages
Delay acting out. - Tell yourself, "I can always act out a little later."

some of my threads

Re: Shteeble's Close Range Firefight 17 Jan 2016 18:56 #274588

shlomo24 Current streak: 1 day OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 2213 Karma: 135	This is what works for me: 1) Surrender the fantasy to god. 2) Make a call and bring the lust out to light. 3) Call sponsor. 4) If all else fails, get down on my knees and start a'prayin'.
	If you're an LGBTQ or LGBTQ-questioning person and looking for someone who can understand you, feel free to reach out. I promise no judgement and to try and listen the best I can. Email: iam24zman@gmail.com