I can actually hear this idea as well. However when I don't eat I can get very bored and irritable which can lead me to fall

B"H it has been 2 clean days since I started again. I hope to be able to hold out longer this time.

My attitude might be wrong with this concept "to be able to hold out longer". I hope to be able to focus on "One day at a time"

"holding out longer" and "one day at a time" share similarities. also i don't believe it's a wrong attitude, just a different one.

Shlomo24 wrote:

Thank you very much for clarifying this for me.

Today B"H I was doing better. Even though that during the past few days I was struggling very much and unfortunately fell. I started again the 90 day chart and hopefully will be able to focus on the "One day at a time" idea and focus on the reality of today and not to worry about how long I will be able to hold out without having a fall. Since worrying about the future will only make things seem more difficult than it really is. I do not mean that it is an easy thing to accomplish, just focusing on another day is not really going to help us either. If there are any thoughts about this please post them.

I like your positive outlook

I was wondering if you considered changing the thread title 'I'm about to fall'

Thank you for the reply and chizuk,
I was considering changing the title of the thread, I just do not know how to do this. By the way I appreciate the picture you sent me; we can learn from this picture that even though some things seem very hard to us it is still possible to accomplish.

Go back to the first post and change the title, I already changed your future ones :-)

Thanks I really appreciate it, and the title sounds great.

I put a stronger filter on my computer yesterday, I hope I will be able to withstand the fact that I cannot browse whatever I want anymore. One thing for sure I have more time to take care of important things at night, and to spend more time with my family. I know that in the beginning I will feel very bored. However I am sure that with the time things will be much better for me.

ODAAT

hatzlacha

Hey Caim thank you for posting:) on Gye you never know where your biggest help is gonna come from... For me the greatest impact came from reading other people's testimonials, and learning to be sober just Right now. even 'just sober today ' didn't help me. I also gained a ton by reading 'the science of Habit change' in the tips and suggestions section. It taught me how to identify my triggers and replace my 'routine' with another habit... When I first found Gye I too couldn't make it even a few days without falling but have since managed to go many months between falls. Just know that you can do it and we're rooting for you. And pls keep posting. G'luck!

Keepclimbing5 wrote:

Thank you very much for your ideas. I thought many times about what triggers my falls. However it was very hard for me. How could I identify my triggers. If you have any ideas please let me know.

The way I identified my triggers was being constantly vigilant and eventually gaining a realization of what threw me out of whack. It's a process, it will take time. I think that you probably know of things that make you crave lust, whether it's a lust object itself or an emotion. Just make sure you're in a healthy mindset because thinking about triggers is one sure way to leading up to acting out. Which is why the passive way worked better for me.