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Re: the void 21 Aug 2013 14:21 #216739

[quote="cordnoy" post=216636]nitzotzeloki wrote:

Is that normal to go over to a complete stranger?

no its not....nu.

about the cannibals, im really sorry guys but i ate them....
i used to look back all the time saying "oh no! what have i done! Hashem help me erase the past." and i never heard a response.
finally i started looking forward saying "Hashem i'm leaving the past to you and i'm forgetting all about it. help me have a good future. help me from here and on be the person You want me to be." and that's where i realized Hashem had been waiting to help me all along
Last Edit: 21 Aug 2013 14:22 by nitzotzeloki.

Re: the void 21 Aug 2013 16:08 #216750

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but you must be special for him to feel so comfortable

what brachah was made?
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Re: the void 21 Aug 2013 17:27 #216754

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cordnoy wrote:

what brachah was made?


Borei P'ri ha'Adam
!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל


"If it would be so easy there wouldn't be a GYE, but if it would be impossible there also wouldn't be a GYE."
"Sometimes a hard decision leads to an easier outcome."
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Re: the void 21 Aug 2013 22:11 #216782

i woke up this morning feeling completely overwhelmed and stressed out. i was mamash in a crazy headspace. in complete sincerity i turned to Hashem and said "Abishter please give me a Hug". tachlis i had a very full day (and its still not over) but from that point on my head/emotions was in an entirely dif. zone. in a good way.
ive been feeling the Hugs

Thank You Abishter!
i used to look back all the time saying "oh no! what have i done! Hashem help me erase the past." and i never heard a response.
finally i started looking forward saying "Hashem i'm leaving the past to you and i'm forgetting all about it. help me have a good future. help me from here and on be the person You want me to be." and that's where i realized Hashem had been waiting to help me all along

Re: the void 21 Aug 2013 23:00 #216796

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marvelous!

(fyi, don't eat comedians, they taste funny)
Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise
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Give, Forgive
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The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting.
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Last Edit: 21 Aug 2013 23:01 by ZemirosShabbos.

Re: the void 21 Aug 2013 23:14 #216798

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Here's one more hug for you today....


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Re: the void 30 Aug 2013 23:45 #217990

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Hey, catching up on missed reading! prepare for a long post


nitzotzeloki wrote:
so heres something that worked for me. i want to experiment to see if it works for others. so if G-d forbid someone is in a 'zone', but not the good kind, find a toilet and scrub it till you can eat off it ( .......... dont actually eat off it) when its nice and clean things should be better. if this works for anyone feel free to let me know

What if you're no longer living in a bachurim dirah and the toilet's clean?


nitzotzeloki wrote:
well some people eat dogs and monkeys, im gonna assume that a dog might eat a person or monkey the question is would a monkey eat a dog or a person?

Reminds me of [guess which book the quote is from]:
"But do cats eat bats, I wonder?" And here Alice began to get rather sleepy, and went on saying to herself, in a dreamy son of way, "Do cats eat bats? Do cats eat bats?" and sometimes "Do bats eat cats?" for, you see, as she couldn't answer either question, it didn't much matter which way she put it.


inastruggle wrote:

Also it's legal to eat a person.

And halachically it's not so bad either I think, look at the minchas chinuch on it for more information.
Gevura Shebyesod wrote:
Where's our resident Mashgiach?

I'm here, I'm here, didn't check Minchas Chinuch, this is what I have at the moment:
בשר אדם
אם מותר באכילה. עי' ב"ח יו"ד סימן עט שהביא בשם הרמב"ם דהוא אסור מדאורייתא וי"א דרבנן. והרמב"ן פר' שמיני והרשב"א ח"א סימן שסד כתבו היתר גמור, אמנם גם המה התירו דוקא אבר מן החי דהא מת אסור בהנאה. ולמעשה פסק הרמ"א שם כהרמב"ם דיש איסור מה"ת.
I punkt discussed with Inna on the phone this week that bsar adam wouldn't make you fleishig, l'halacha- neither would pork, or tuna. Veal would.


nitzotzeloki wrote:
reminder to self:

the Abishter Loves me!

Just check my sig duuude.




Gevura Shebyesod wrote:
cordnoy wrote:

what brachah was made?


Borei P'ri ha'Adam

In accordance with the ruling of the Tur O.C. 196, no Bracha Should be made before only after. The poskim disagree and rule that a bracha should be made both before and after. Both SheHakol.
?דער באשעפער לאווט מיך אייביג. וויפיל לאוו איך עהם
My Creator loves me at all times. How great is my love for him?

Re: the void 31 Aug 2013 00:44 #217993

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Shouldn't the after Bracha be Borei Nefashos?

And according to what you wrote that only Eiver Min Hachai is allowed, then pshat is, Borei Nefashos Rabos, he created many people, Vichesronam, and their missing pieces, dehainu the parts I just ate.

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וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל


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Re: the void 31 Aug 2013 00:57 #217994

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Gevura Shebyesod wrote:
Shouldn't the after Bracha be Borei Nefashos?
I say it should be יוצר האדם like in Sheva Brachos.

Gevura Shebyesod wrote:
ditto
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Re: the void 01 Sep 2013 07:07 #218019

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doesn't the mechaber paskin than a brachah achronah should not be recited on a dvar issur; perhaps if it is b'shogeig there is afterwards.
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Re: the void 01 Sep 2013 08:38 #218028

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tehillimzugger wrote:

I punkt discussed with Inna on the phone this week that bsar adam wouldn't make you fleishig, l'halacha- neither would pork, or tuna. Veal would.


If I rememeber correctly it wasn't so pashut, you said that only a b'haimah would make u fleishigs and not a chaya so I said it depends on the person....
Last Edit: 01 Sep 2013 08:39 by inastruggle.

Re: the void 13 Sep 2013 00:34 #219097

there are HORDES! EVERYWHERE! HORDES!

ive been working really hard the past couple of days, (never realized that i could do a 13 hour shift) and now im tired and its making me vulnerable. i may go hide under my bed
i used to look back all the time saying "oh no! what have i done! Hashem help me erase the past." and i never heard a response.
finally i started looking forward saying "Hashem i'm leaving the past to you and i'm forgetting all about it. help me have a good future. help me from here and on be the person You want me to be." and that's where i realized Hashem had been waiting to help me all along

Re: the void 13 Sep 2013 00:44 #219098

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what use is hiding if you just gave away your hiding spot?

Hard work spotlights the character of people: some turn up their sleeves, some turn up their noses, and some don't turn up at all.
Sam Ewing
Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise
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Give, Forgive
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The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting.
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Re: the void 15 Sep 2013 12:39 #219249

on erev yom kippur i started not feeling well and decided to davven at a shul next to my apt. i was very disappointed because it turned out to be a social hall that looked like a shul. yom kippur was really rough. i was feeling physically miserable, the talking was really disturbing me and i was having a very hard time getting into davvening. motzai yom kippur i couldnt sleep. i was feeling physically and mentally uncomfortable. i felt a NEED for some release. anything. i kept on telling myself "its motzai yom kippur! you cant do this now" this was one of the times having a filter really saved me. i was even going to call someone at 2.30 in the morning.
B"H a thought came to mind.
one of the Rabeim of Chabad asked their father on motzai yom kippur what the avodah was now. the response was "now is when we need to do teshuva". fact is itzumo shel yom mechaper. i may not have FELT connected on yom kippur but feelings are not reality. today, right now, i can work on my connection to Hashem. a real one, not just based on what im feeling now. i was disappointed in the physical day of yom kippur? well i can bring it with me by living as if i had felt what had happened on yom kippur. cause the connection happened even if i didnt feel it.
i must have fallen asleep at some point because i woke up this morning feeling much better. i made zman krias shema and davvened shacharis with a minyan (sort of) which i havent done on a weekday in a while.

sorry that these shana tova wishes are a little belated but you know i AM chabad
i would like to wish everyone an amazing year, filled with joy and life. I would like to thank the creators, administrators and participants of this amazing, holy site. may the Abishter Bentch you all with Kol Tuv Beruchniyos uveGashmiyus in a way that is visible even to us. i would also like to ask mechilla if my clowning and immaturity (or what i thought was maturity) has disturbed anyone i know that im not as funny as i think i am
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i used to look back all the time saying "oh no! what have i done! Hashem help me erase the past." and i never heard a response.
finally i started looking forward saying "Hashem i'm leaving the past to you and i'm forgetting all about it. help me have a good future. help me from here and on be the person You want me to be." and that's where i realized Hashem had been waiting to help me all along

Re: the void 16 Sep 2013 01:45 #219287

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nitzotzeloki wrote:

Avi

That's not his real name, his real name is Pinchas #7 [Or at least Avi #2...]

And come on, you ARE funny!
?דער באשעפער לאווט מיך אייביג. וויפיל לאוו איך עהם
My Creator loves me at all times. How great is my love for him?
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