B"H, day 3 and I'm gaining strength every moment on here. I've been reading both handbooks, the book:  "the first day of the rest of my life", and the 12 steps.

I don't want to overdose.

Does anyone have a suggestion about whether I should also make a list of the things that cause me to fall, or any other important things to do when you're first getting back up from a nasty, prolonged fall?

good after noon my brother i just wante to share with you again that i love you dearly unconditional love. You are my brother. and remember totty loves us to unconditional.

kidushashem wrote on 10 Aug 2011 15:04:


kiddush hashemm

listen to uncle bards

please do

there is no list

no looking back

my truck has many gears

the one gear that is missing is REVERSE

dont look back

there is no big or small fall

no long or short

we just gotta get uo

hisnarri mai-affar kumi

bard is always right.

bardichev wrote on 10 Aug 2011 19:13:

Bards,
thanks for your reply but can you please clarify?
Many people on this forum suggest making a list of triggers that cause someone to fall so that they can be avoided. While I understand and agree with you about not looking back and focusing on the present, don't you think it's important to have the awareness of what causes one to fall? Can't those two work together?

Levi Yitzchak, AKA Kidushashem

chazak chazak wrote on 10 Aug 2011 18:57:

Thank you dear Brother!

Amazing! I just returned from a vort and saw a healthy Chosson and Kallah, so inspiring the way they are so ehrlich and Tahor. Such a simcha.
I'm looking forward to that relationship with my wife and with Hashem.

I'm so happy now, finishing day 4 with a geshmak:-)

Love to all,

Levi

You are mamash a kidush hashem. so many seconds clean wow. love you brother. keep on trucking.

chazak chazak wrote on 11 Aug 2011 22:11:


Thank you! You are giving me a lot of chizuk with all your replies and encouragement.

Good
shabbos!

I just want to let everyone know that I am starting a new accountability group with Knasos.
For some reason that part of the forum is very shvach when it seems to me that it's an amazing tool. Anyone who's interested, please join. I started a new thread in that section.

Hey,

I don't want to discourage you in any way but from my experience, these groups start strong but fizzle out with time. Just as a suggestion, it may be a good idea for you guys to call each other or something along those lines to make it more personal. Having each other available for clling can be a great asset when one of you guys are feeling weak.

i agree to that it had helped me in the past a lot. a lot of people here have google voice set up for this reason. enjoy life. a git shabbos.

kidushashem wrote on 10 Aug 2011 15:04:


Now you're cooking with gas!
This time will be very different.
Never stop working the steps.  Never think you're cured enough to cheat even a sip.
If you do this, there's no reason to look back.

Hatzlocha and Good Shabbos!
Alex

chazak chazak wrote on 12 Aug 2011 15:32:


Thank you Chazak and Installed!
I will definitely keep that in mind. Shavua Tov.

alexeliezer wrote on 12 Aug 2011 16:30:


Alex! Thank you so much for that!! I was hoping someone would confirm that for me b/c it's hard to keep on telling yourself that this time will be different. But I know it will be because I'm approaching it better and stronger than ever before and if Hashem decides, this will be the most successful battle. All I can do is trust in him that he will help me. I can only Daven for a Yeshua and that is all that's  expected of me.

Thanks!