You gotta be clear.  I think what you mean to say is your telling the Yetzer harah he's not welcome at your door.  Hashem is VERY welcome. your post sounds like Hashem is not welcome in your home.

As you can tell i have too much free time on my hands.....

I think he meant that when we act out we are telling Hashem that he is not welcome.

Hashem Yaasfeni wrote on 05 Jan 2012 19:14:

in the beginning i also had about a million posts a week
but i learned not to automatically comment
when u want some1 to correct something send him a pm
this should also have been a pm 
TZ
RAT [anyone remembers that]

Ok Lets get back on track here goes (and I counted properly...)

#64

Regarding what the Mishna says 'Da ma lehashiv le'Apikorus', Know how to answer the heretic, Rabbi Avigdor Miller Z"L quotes his Rosh Yeshiva as saying;

    Know how to answer the heretic within you, the yetser Harah, dont just give in to his urging you, answer him back, tell him to take a hike....

#65 We only have so much time given to us in this world...
is there really any we have to waste?
Need a break form your "reality?" take a walk, exercise, call afriend...there is NEVER enough time for these things....

yet there is time for THIS!?

#66

befeirishe jawbreakers:

SAY NO TO DRUGS

#67  Acting out leaves dirty spiritual grime that is hard to remove, and keeps us from cleaving to Gcd.

there is no reason to say yes!! when u r not acting out u r urself, present ,n serene!!

8)it makes you depressed

Dear Mr. Emunah!
[like your name]
Welcome to our community, you have finally come home!

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I was once a smoker and while I knew I was actually killing myself and making myself sick in many ways, I was not willing to give it up. It seemed like too much of an effort, too hard a trek.
It was not until my Dad (ע"ה) pleaded with me to stop that I finally agreed.

The reason I mention cigarettes it is because it is an addiction just like this one.
It is a totally illogical addiction because it is well known that it is harmful  _  just like this one.
(why would a person do something that is very detrimental to himself on purpose - illogical)
It is a powerful addiction just like this one.

I would like to give you some tips that have helped me in the hope they will help some of you too:

1. Don't be afraid to start even if you fail.
a.  As painful as it may be, we all fail sometimes. Just take it as a fact of life.
b.  Every effort you make is accumulated for you and it will help you for when you finally do succeed.
c. Like a mountain climber when they fall down they either
i. Fall back to an anchor they placed beforehand so they don't fall too far
ii. Or fall back down but they know all the rocks that are dangerous and are the places that are safe. They will do much better the next time up.

2. Develop a marathon man mentality for a few weeks. Long enough to pull yourself out of the mud. It is not as hard as it sounds. "Once you're on it you're on it."* Then it is much easier because you are both physically and spiritually farther away from the addiction and you begin to see rewards.

Live each day at a time. The confusion and fear of tomorrow and what tomorrow may bring can stop you in you tracks. But if you live your life "one day at a time"* it is much easier.


3. Study Torah
a. It keeps your mind filled with positive thoughts
b. Make it a constant study - keep at it

In  Kiddushin 30 page 2 it says:
c. "Even so did the Holy One, blessed be He, speak unto Israel: ‘My children! I created the Evil Desire, but I [also] created the Torah, as its antidote; if you occupy yourselves with the Torah, you will not be delivered into his hand, for it is said: If thou doest well, shalt thou not be exalted?"
d. In particular study about this subject.

4. Do physical exercise
a. It provides the body with a lot of what it really needs and keeps it satisfied

5. Pray to G-d for help - He does help even if it does not seem so at times. Life has its ups and its downs and that is just the way it is.

6. He will give you the strength to see yourself out of this - you will be happy you did (for the above 90,000 reasons)

*This message has been made possible by the teachings of Rabbi Abraham Twersky and  Rabbi Noach Weinberg (ע"ה).

Thanks Mr. Anonymous [or is it Mr. Seventeen?  ;)] for a very enlightening post.
Perhaps it's even better than the general "welcome package" I just delivered to Mr. Emunah.
It seems you will be a tremendous asset to this site, so I can't wait for you to introduce yourself in the "introduce yourself" forums...

#69

EVEN IF YOU KEEP IT SECRET, YOUR WIFE FEELS IT AND SHE WILL HATE YOU

#70  - you know your shalom bayis is way better when you are clean!
#71 - when you have nothing to hide, you can be honest with the entire world and never fear being discovered.

#72 forgive me if this was said already
[glow=red,2,300]יצא שכרו בהפסדו

i couldnt tell if it was already mentioned because I kept getting lost in the list.
but there's a long way to go. so an extra one wouldnt hurt.