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"HabaLetaher" Posts: I hate the "so busy - yet not doing anything" feeling that leaves me feeling dazed and confused. Sometimes a good run does it for me, a good sweat.. Then I come home, shower up... and BAM I got endorphins flowing and things just get snappier and more ...

I'm not counting the days now, but I know that I've passed two weeks clean. I am being very careful with my thoughts, not just my actions. I'm determined to remain clean during shovavim, and from there I'll work towards 90 days again. When I feel tempted and weak, I reali...

Just a thought... If someone is not addicted yet and has merely just begun to dabble in inappropriate sites, there might be a clean and simple solution. Pledge a $100 to tzedaka for each conscious, purposeful and clear infraction that involves looking at an inappropriate...

Movies are a no-no for any Jew serious about guarding his eyes, and a thousand times more so for a lust addict. Even the most "innocent" movies today are filled with triggers. Click here for an article on movies by the famous Arutz 7 blogger, Tzvi Fishman. If after readin...

Thank you for that link. There were many useful ideas and techniques there. Ideas for how to positively react and deal with the thoughts, and practical techniques for managing them. I like the idea of "welcoming them" rather than fighting the losing battle of actively try...

"silentbattle" writes some advice on the forum: When things are calm, picture yourself being faced with a challenge and in your mind picture yourself, instead of acting out, doing something specific instead, like getting up and going to a different room, going for a jog, ...

A Rebbe of mine once told me that "your day starts the night before". And he explained that this is a big trick of the Yetzer Hara to make us stay up late at night and not get enough sleep. He even tricks us into becoming "temporary Tzaddikim" by giving us an inspiration ...

Try to get out of going, if possible. If not, make a plan in advance. Schedule how long you have to be there, and stick to it. Set an alarm to remind you when to leave. Prepare an excuse to leave in advance. Give yourself a pep-talk before going. Look at yourself in the ...

About 9 months ago, in the throws of the addiction, I woke up one morning feeling that I no longer recognized myself. I don't know what it was, but a terrible sensation tore through me and hit me at the very core. "What happened to me?" I thought. "Where did the old me go...

I sit at the computer all day ... and my job requires me to constantly be searching. Some other things I've found help me stay clean when I need to be at the computer: 1. Make sure you are drinking WATER! 2. Eliminate colas, coffee, cakes, cookies, and other high stimulan...

I'm following a program on RecoveryNation.com. It has workshops that you do every day, and it comes IN CONJUNCTION with a 12 step group or any other recovery program. I think it can help anyone trying to get better. For example, after my last fall, this program suggested ...

I have started implementing a practical tip that is helping me. I actually got this tip from the handbook (a pretty useful little booklet). I have begun pinching myself. I know it sounds pretty dumb and ridiculous, but frankly I don't really care, as long as it works. So ...

Here is what caused my recent fall after 77 amazing days clean: Sometimes when I work, I listen to non-Jewish music (I know, that is just one more hypocrisy in my life, I prepare Torah classes while listening to non-Jewish music. Welcome to my private little island of hyp...

Here is one Eitza that has worked for me (In addition to K-9 on my computer without knowing the password). I made a Neder that I would not touch any computer besides my own. Meaning, even if I want to check my e-mail- or a web sight quickly- I will not touch anyone else's...

When the big chill came these past weeks, I paid to join a movie download site so we could get old Hollywood "kosher" movies (that you can't find anymore) so we could distract the kids who were cooped up and asking for them. I kept a copy of the program on my work comp, a...

I was recently diagnosed with prostate cancer. As I face the thought of maybe not ever being with my wife again (at least for a year), I look back at the 20 years before I knew I was an addict and think about all of the times I manipulated my wife into being with me, when...

You should want to stop to be able to have a life, NOT to stop 'sinning'. If you don't stop now, you will end up spending your whole day online looking at P***. You will have no life. You will not learn Torah. You will ignore your wife and kids. You will not get a positio...

I read something on this Forum that hit me hard. Someone said to another newbie something like, "wouldn't you like to spend the rest of your life LIVING as a mentsch, rather than as a pretender who's walking around with a dirty little secret?" I'm afraid there's only one ...