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ShomerAiyin had a slip after 12 days and writes: I remember saying "No" to the Yetzer Hara quite a number of times during the past 12 days, so I guess that's gotta count for something. But the fact that I've only been able to string together bunches of clean days separate...

Someone posted a great question on the forum: I AM WONDERING IF THERE IS ANYTHING ONE CAN DO NOT TO GET STIMULATED FROM TRIGGERING SIGHTS OR SITUATIONS? I AM NOT LOOKING FOR NISYONOS RATHER I AM TRYING TO FIND A WAY HOW TO CONTROL MY MIND AFTER I SEE SOMETHING THAT BOTHER...

Let us all remind ourselves what it was that pushed us to seek help. What was it about the addiction that we hated the most? If we focus on that, it will help us not to slip or fall. For me it was as follows: A. I was using it as a crutch for instant gratification B. I kn...

This motzaei Shabbos I had to stay up half the night for a work related item. I had not anticipated having to stay up and was caught somewhat off guard. All the symptoms that normally preceded a slip began appearing. I was resentful for having to stay up, there was a stre...

B"H I have reached 90 days. Mazal Tov. I can't begin to express my gratitude to you and your web site on helping me reach this stage. The way I look at 90 days, is like finally finishing the first step to healing from this disease. I see this as being the first step of a...

Today, Yaakov is doing fantastically well and is helping us inspire many other strugglers on the forum. Hi, I am new to this forum. I have been reading some of your posts in the past few weeks as I was trying to get acquainted with the site and I have been so inspired. I ...

Ahron Posted on the Forum: I have gotten to the point where I can occasionally understand why "normal" people view p***n as repulsive (not all the time though). I'm happy about that. However seeing pretty women on the street, even with no further thought beyond the first ...

Here's what helped me after a 15 year addiction. . . A rabbi was saying that if you would rather DIE than eat a bug, that Hashem won't have it happen that you will ever eat a bug. I had heard this before as a Chasidic story, but the Rabbi said it in such a way, he said th...

HOW TO START EACH DAY RIGHT 1. Open a new file in your computer.2. Name it 'Lust'. 3. Send it to the Recycle Bin. 4. Empty the Recycle Bin. 5. Your PC will ask you: 'Do you really want to get rid of Lust?6. Firmly Click 'Yes'

Someone who has been on our forum for a long time and put in a lot of effort to break this addiction and yet still continued to have occasional falls, wrote on the forum: I think many of us have given it our all. We've made drastic changes in our lives, created many fence...

I need to learn from my fall, and this past fall has taught me that I have to cancel my Facebook account. It's really a waste of time anyway. The only reason I've been keeping the account is to see what's new in my friend's lives, see new photos of their kids, and have al...

There are many people who are desperate and say that they would do anything to be free of the compulsion. Here is something that will indeed take much effort, but if one is really ready to do anything, this can help greatly: WATCH YOUR SPEECH! Be meticulo...

We have a member on our forum who calls himself "Momo". When he first read through the GYE handbooks (here), they did not seem to have a lasting effect on him. We managed to convince him however, that the handbooks can't work unless we read them slow...

One of the slogans of the 12-step program is "Keep it simple (stupid)". It is important to keep things simple. We make things difficult by complicating them. "Simple" does not mean "easy." A command to lift a 100 pound weight is simple, it's just very ...

This may seem a little different, but it's tried and true. Whatever it is that you are struggling with - in our case it is lust, we all know that we are most vulnerable when we are feeling down. When we are well rested, we feel good. A...

Don't fall on a whim. I'll say it again: Don't fall on a whim. Falling is too painful to do just like that. If a person c"v feels like he must fall, he should at least think it through. Write down 10 reasons you don't want to fall. The...

I've been trying to write down in my pocket calendar how many times I've looked at women in the street each day. I'm only counting if I see someone and keep on looking, or if I intentionally look around. I used to think this happens nearly a hundred times ...

I want to share an eitza which occurred to me. While on the road to 90 days, one can fall into a monotonous routine... Once this happens, the propensity to act out increases. I just started planning posts on the forum. Thoughts and ideas that I want to pos...