Ditto, silentbattle!

silentbattle wrote on 27 Dec 2009 07:16:
Although you guys may be right that there is alot for you to gain, Eye is stressing a different point. There are things he would like to express, but only feels comfortable expressing them to married men. Things that simply arent applicable to single men, or helpful to them.

Well, I guess you need to take that up with Guard personally...

Things that would be triggers for single guys, though, would probably be triggers for married people, too...no? Maybe not. I guess that's guard's call.

Unless he's talking about a specific comfort level, nothing to do with triggers or not.

silentbattle wrote on 27 Dec 2009 13:16:
Yes you are very right. I hope eye doesnt mind me saying but he has removed posts in the past. Sometimes being in the postion allows things not to be as triggering. Pas Bisalo.

Hey am i coming off wrong?? Im not at all trying to put down you bochurim. :D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D

I understand the concern...both concerns, honestly. But does pas bisalo apply to us here? Doesn't seem to have helped...

Funny you guys are talking about pas besaloi. That was half the conversation with r' schlachter last week. He told me, "if you'd think that it helps, why do i have so many married people sitting on the same chair as you?"

Today is day 58!

Regarding my message about married people:  I tried to be discreet enough that anyone ought to be able to read it without it being a trigger.  But specific enough that it might be helpful.

I hope I struck the right balance.

  --Eye.

Eye,

Your balance is beautiful.
See you soon!
KUTGW!!

sturggle wrote on 27 Dec 2009 17:45:


Thanks.    :-[

The balance was perfect!!!  KUTGW!!!

Eye.nonymous wrote on 27 Dec 2009 17:43:
Yes you actually looked a little tipsy the other night. :D ;D :D ;D

But really dude youve got those eyes perfectly balanced.

I can't speak for everyone, but I feel that for myself, that was a good balance...

silentbattle wrote on 27 Dec 2009 21:06:


You can speak for everybody some of the time, and for some of the people all of the time.

It's just you can't speak for everybody ALL of the time.

Today is day 59.

It's been hard.  BUT, I haven't had any urges to act out.  I feel very thankful for this.

I've just been feeling knocked out, and trying to trudge through the day.

I think I'm recovering from the fast; for me I think I suffer more the day after.

I took morning seder one-line at a time.

And this afternoon my wife needs helps at home with the kids.  Instead of being resentful, I'm looking at it as an opportunity to chill a little.  I think this is also amazing that I can do this now.

Also, a ray of hope has been with me all through the day--thinking that I'll meet some of you in person again this evening 

Sorry to hear you are having not the best day in the world.  Just think that by getting through it, tomorrow might even be better.  Just keep on going and stay positive.  I find playing with my kids is a great way to actually feel better.  KUTGW and keep living.