The more I think about it, the more I believe that this thread focuses on a concept
at least as important as 12 steps. (
Im ducking until projectiles stop :o :o) I once brought it up on TrYiNgs thread a long time ago, but it fizzled.
Disclaimer: 7up's opinion only:
The reason many of us start with addictions, is as a way to numb internal pain and avoid reality as we perceive it. We seek out comfort and shelter in the lowest places, as long as we can avoid ourselves.
We dont like what we see within ourselves, and focus on every negative; be it real or imagined, convincing ourselves that we are not deserving of real love.
By slowly learning -
and internalizing the life-changing concept that
we are lovable and that Hashem loves us always and unconditionally we can heal.
As we recognize the hugs, we slowly internalize the most basic yesod that HASHEM LOVES US. We are lovable, we deserve love and reality is filled with good. We just need to learn how to focus on it.
As 'good' takes over, 'bad' falls into perspective. Not only is it suddenly not a 24 hour reality, but what once was seen as 'bad, can now be re-evaluated and seen through the rose colored glasses which are reality!
And suddenly, we want to feel good
all the time, not just for a few addiction seconds at a time (which are inevitably followed by guilty lows) We realize that the warm feeling brought on by 'hugs' is long lasting. Not only do they not wear off quickly, but the next hug comes before the last one has even worn off! All it takes is practice; open your eyes, focus on the good which is always there, and recognize Who sent it.
Oh, yeh, and dont forget 'thanx'!