Thank you very much for your advice and for breaking it down I found it clear and helpful. And yes of course I will stay in touch with Reb eerie.

Just to clarify because I thought I addressed some of your points in my question. Truth is that I didn't write it so clearly so I'll  make a few points to clarify.

1. I am not talking about discarding shmiras einayim. I mean to tackle it after I am in a stronger position with M.
2. I am ready to be mindful of it even now and try to improve.

My question is like this. While I appreciate your point that if you are using your eyes to feed your lust that means you are still feeding the lust mania inside, I do not feel like I'm ready to say I simply will not look at all every time I go in the street or the store. As opposed to my battle with M and P where I'm ready to say you know what I'm done with this. In addition I think that if I would try to get myself to do that it would feel to me like the whole fight is too overwhelming. Also in addition is that I think based on past experience when this mehalech actually worked for me that once I've cleaned myself from constant sex obsession  by breaking out of P and M I will find the battle of looking much easier than taking it on together as one big battle.

I think I made my question more clear and thank you benhashembh for helping me do that

Thank you for the detailed follow-up.

It could be quite reasonable for you to say that never looking is too much to expect right now, but, the huge difference will be (and what you seem to be saying you are doing) that you are working on shemiras einayim, just starting with a stable beginning. If you focus on those shemiras einayim wins and appreciate the meaning of those accomplishments, over time, you should BezH be able to build on that foundation as you progress.

Have a wonderful Shabbos!

jewizard21 wrote on 18 Jun 2025 05:52: