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Re: It's all their fault (and that's the truth!) 26 Mar 2017 20:41 #309280

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Blame is for when you do something wrong.
Everything else is miscommunication and bad dynamics and our addictions/yetzer horas.
We should all be mature enough to know when we did something wrong. And to take the blame.
And to remember that the wife is always right.
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Re: It's all their fault (and that's the truth!) 26 Mar 2017 20:44 #309281

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Trouble wrote on 26 Mar 2017 20:02:

MayanHamisgaber wrote on 26 Mar 2017 19:21:

Trouble wrote on 26 Mar 2017 19:04:

MayanHamisgaber wrote on 26 Mar 2017 18:59:

Trouble wrote on 26 Mar 2017 18:54:

unanumun wrote on 26 Mar 2017 18:42:

Trouble wrote on 26 Mar 2017 18:32:

unanumun wrote on 26 Mar 2017 18:23:

Workingguy wrote on 26 Mar 2017 16:43:
There's a difference between venting about the difficulties caused by your interactions with other people, and actually blaming them. 










Is there really a difference? 
the common denominator is focusing on the other person or thing. 
Both will not get you very far in life, because there will always be someone that doesn't follow along the script as you thought it should go. 
one must strive to be whole with oneself and with Hashem and know that whatever happens to him is custom made for him. Either as a direct result of his own actions or as a way to work on himself. 

The story is told about some Rebbe in Europe that worked hard to get special wool from eretz yisraeldike sheep for his new tzitzis. after much effort he was pleased to have attained the desired wool. 
He excitedly gave the wool to his chasid, the expert tailor to make the beged for the tzitzis.
While working on the wool, the tailor got all confused and when he went to cut the whole in the middle for the head, he accidentally cut two wholes in the beged.
Embarrassed but with no choice he brought the two holed beged to the rebbe. He nervously awaited the Rebbe's reaction, fearing what divrey mussar he was going to get from him. 
the rebbe smiled and said: "gevaldig, that's exactly what i needed. a beged with two holes - one to stick my head in and one to test my kaas"

that's what it is all about. that's how we can live life. (I wish that one day I can give you an example from my own life, but in the meantime at least this is what I am striving for)

Maybe he got confused, for he didn't know how to cut a "whole" in middle of a beged.

Oh! so now you are blaming me.

Well, did you say over the story rong, or was it the rebbe's fault? The blame's gotta go someplace.

no it doesn't

Then, where does it go?

why does there have to be blame why can there not be a reason that one just cannot see (דן לכף זכות .....not easy but that is life sorry)

There goes Judaism again!

Always that proverbial gezeiras hakasuv.

You can't see it, but it's there.

It's not logical, but it's a fact.

We don't understand reason, but it's true.

How then can we ever know true blame? And don't tell me I'm right, for then I will be out of business.

If I was talking gezeiras hakasuv you are right
But even if not the point is the same placing blame does not work getting upset at others as we all know....
So really either way whether we understand it or not it is the way to go (for me at least..)
And yes to me this does make logical sense now that I have tried it many times though at first I did struggle to understand it.
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Re: It's all their fault (and that's the truth!) 26 Mar 2017 20:57 #309284

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I don't really understand the last two posts, but that's ok (no problem, you want modest, we can do that, so on the invitation write......), I know I am doing something wrong (wow; feels good saying that, I think i am healed now), so something must give.

I will try to write from a different perspective next time something rears its ugly head (and I actually sense something brewing).

Thanks fellows, and remember, it's all our fault.

So, whose fault would it not be if something bad was written on this thread?
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Re: It's all their fault (and that's the truth!) 26 Mar 2017 21:05 #309286

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Trouble wrote on 26 Mar 2017 20:57:
I don't really understand the last two posts, but that's ok (no problem, you want modest, we can do that, so on the invitation write......), I know I am doing something wrong (wow; feels good saying that, I think i am healed now), so something must give.

I will try to write from a different perspective next time something rears its ugly head (and I actually sense something brewing).

Thanks fellows, and remember, it's all our fault.

So, whose fault would it not be if something bad was written on this thread?

I actually had trouble reading most of the posts since other people butted in to your thread.
But happy to clarify my thoughts for you if you wish.

Re: It's all their fault (and that's the truth!) 26 Mar 2017 21:09 #309287

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Oh boy you are a stubborn one aincha 

no you are not doing something wrong just not something that is working for you (so it seems)

I'll take all the blame for something bad written since there aint notin you can does abouts its        (sorry that is all the tounges I can find) :-p ;-P  q-:  :Q  :b :B
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Re: It's all their fault (and that's the truth!) 26 Mar 2017 21:10 #309288

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GrowStrong wrote on 26 Mar 2017 21:05:

Trouble wrote on 26 Mar 2017 20:57:
I don't really understand the last two posts, but that's ok (no problem, you want modest, we can do that, so on the invitation write......), I know I am doing something wrong (wow; feels good saying that, I think i am healed now), so something must give.

I will try to write from a different perspective next time something rears its ugly head (and I actually sense something brewing).

Thanks fellows, and remember, it's all our fault.

So, whose fault would it not be if something bad was written on this thread?

I actually had trouble reading most of the posts since other people butted in to your thread.
But happy to clarify my thoughts for you if you wish.

I protest this is a public forum no butts iffs or whatevers...
very important thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21" option="guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21">FEEL THE HUGS!!!

Re: It's all their fault (and that's the truth!) 26 Mar 2017 21:30 #309292

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GrowStrong wrote on 26 Mar 2017 21:05:

Trouble wrote on 26 Mar 2017 20:57:
I don't really understand the last two posts, but that's ok (no problem, you want modest, we can do that, so on the invitation write......), I know I am doing something wrong (wow; feels good saying that, I think i am healed now), so something must give.

I will try to write from a different perspective next time something rears its ugly head (and I actually sense something brewing).

Thanks fellows, and remember, it's all our fault.

So, whose fault would it not be if something bad was written on this thread?

I actually had trouble reading most of the posts since other people butted in to your thread.
But happy to clarify my thoughts for you if you wish.

And I'd be happy to hear.

How can someone butt into my thread? Aren't threads supposed to be a give and take? I mean, if nobody would write here, I'd be talking to myself.....ummmm....that happens anyways.
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Re: It's all their fault (and that's the truth!) 26 Mar 2017 21:34 #309293

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Hey, what's wrong with you?First, you call me stubborn; then you call me anca! What am I; a blood cell?And if it's not working, isn't it wrong?
i'm all about that (substantial) bass, no trouble ....

if you're looking for trouble, you can email me @trouble69gye@outlook.com

Re: It's all their fault (and that's the truth!) 26 Mar 2017 21:43 #309294

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no just because something doesn't work does not mean it is wrong something like shivim panim l'tora... 

I reserve the right to change what I call people based on the most recent post...
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Re: It's all their fault (and that's the truth!) 26 Mar 2017 22:05 #309297

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MayanHamisgaber wrote on 26 Mar 2017 21:43:
no just because something doesn't work does not mean it is wrong something like shivim panim l'tora... 

I reserve the right to change what I call people based on the most recent post...

Ok; I hear, I think.

And since it's public, you can call me anything, I guess.
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Re: It's all their fault (and that's the truth!) 26 Mar 2017 22:08 #309298

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Trouble wrote on 26 Mar 2017 21:30:

GrowStrong wrote on 26 Mar 2017 21:05:

Trouble wrote on 26 Mar 2017 20:57:
I don't really understand the last two posts, but that's ok (no problem, you want modest, we can do that, so on the invitation write......), I know I am doing something wrong (wow; feels good saying that, I think i am healed now), so something must give.

I will try to write from a different perspective next time something rears its ugly head (and I actually sense something brewing).

Thanks fellows, and remember, it's all our fault.

So, whose fault would it not be if something bad was written on this thread?

I actually had trouble reading most of the posts since other people butted in to your thread.
But happy to clarify my thoughts for you if you wish.

And I'd be happy to hear.

How can someone butt into my thread? Aren't threads supposed to be a give and take? I mean, if nobody would write here, I'd be talking to myself.....ummmm....that happens anyways.

I enjoy your posts so much that my equilibrium lost a bit of balance when it turned into an actual discussion.

Re: It's all their fault (and that's the truth!) 26 Mar 2017 22:26 #309299

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GrowStrong wrote on 26 Mar 2017 22:08:

Trouble wrote on 26 Mar 2017 21:30:

GrowStrong wrote on 26 Mar 2017 21:05:

Trouble wrote on 26 Mar 2017 20:57:
I don't really understand the last two posts, but that's ok (no problem, you want modest, we can do that, so on the invitation write......), I know I am doing something wrong (wow; feels good saying that, I think i am healed now), so something must give.

I will try to write from a different perspective next time something rears its ugly head (and I actually sense something brewing).

Thanks fellows, and remember, it's all our fault.

So, whose fault would it not be if something bad was written on this thread?

I actually had trouble reading most of the posts since other people butted in to your thread.
But happy to clarify my thoughts for you if you wish.

And I'd be happy to hear.

How can someone butt into my thread? Aren't threads supposed to be a give and take? I mean, if nobody would write here, I'd be talking to myself.....ummmm....that happens anyways.

I enjoy your posts so much that my equilibrium lost a bit of balance when it turned into an actual discussion.

That sounds like a compliment; I'm not sure how to respond.
i'm all about that (substantial) bass, no trouble ....

if you're looking for trouble, you can email me @trouble69gye@outlook.com

Re: It's all their fault (and that's the truth!) 26 Mar 2017 23:01 #309305

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Trouble
I like your' attitude alot so open-minded and willing to hear opinions different than yours!!
We all have what to learn from you
You will succeed in recovery

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Re: It's all their fault (and that's the truth!) 26 Mar 2017 23:43 #309307

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This thread is a cross between Alice in Wonderland and Heath Ledger's joker in Batman. I don't know what the @&)# is flying but that's probably my fault. 

And Una, I'll take as much responsibility as I think I carry. Don't want to enable soneone else's issues. 

Re: It's all their fault (and that's the truth!) 27 Mar 2017 00:08 #309309

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Workingguy wrote on 26 Mar 2017 23:43:
This thread is a cross between Alice in Wonderland and Heath Ledger's joker in Batman. I don't know what the @&)# is flying but that's probably my fault. 

And Una, I'll take as much responsibility as I think I carry. Don't want to enable soneone else's issues. 

Wonder what that mixture would look like; probably cute; no?
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