Here's my New Members Welcome package



24 = ODAAT
90 = +-
Free Therapist on a bike - anyone willing to listen?????

Marx, I think it's time for an avatar update

Thank you for posting this! I'm a new member, and these tips are very helpful. I once went on a 4-month streak, and I kept counting every day. I agree it's best when you're not thinking about it anymore, and counting may have led to my downfall.

I've been struggling with this addiction since I was 13. I am now 42. I've had great days, weeks and months, but I always fail.  The worse feeling of all is when my wife found out. However, she has been very supportive in me overcoming this. I want 5748 to be my best year yet and I really need help. Help that my wife cannot supply.

Welcome!! I would suggest starting a new thread on the "introducing yourself" page. Stick around. Good luck

I hope 5784 is going to be a good year. You can’t change the past but look forward to a better and holier year iyh
but it probably was just a typo lol

azig wrote on 07 Jan 2024 21:55:

Did you decide your next action step to make this the best year?
Some suggestions:
- reach out to someone for accountability. 
- try the F2F course or the other GYE tools (see top menu)
- post often on this forum 

Interesting 

Yes

Hi Everyone,

I'm a 24 year old single man who has struggled with mast******** and light p.g. for my entire adult life, with the exception of a few clean streaks over the past couple of years. I had a real fall this past Thursday which shook me up, and I told myself enough is enough!!!, so I said to myself that I really need to do something about this. Be'chesed Hashem, I remembered GYE, and I've been watching the videos, as well as implementing concrete actions, ("Lo Hamedrash Hu Haikar Ellah Hamaseh" is my new motto!!). They include ( and I'm mentioning them for public benefit) not to eat past 8 p.m., as a full stomach has historically instigated arousals  throughout the night, as well as preparing and implementing the tools, such as distraction, like a good book, music or podcast. With the kindness of Hashem, I'm clean for five days so far, which is the longest streak that I've had in close to a year !! My self esteem has gotten a lot better, as well as my comfort with interpersonal relationships. I hope to reach the 90 day mark and keep going from there!!!! The sweetness of freedom is better and longer lasting than anything that P & M can ever provide!!!

Hi, my first time posting, so not sure if this is really gonna work. Nervous to be here but also curious and a little hopeful that we his can be the lasting change I'm looking for. I'm 30 married with kids and I have never been  able to completely block this stuff out of my life, every new gadget comes with its porn until I block and many other situations. It really makes me feel like a dumpster fire of hypocrisy and shame. Which leads to bad self image and then bad interactions with my wife and the cycle repeats. 

fighting4ever wrote on 03 Dec 2024 04:11:

Hi welcome,  you have come to the right place,
Try the flight to freedom program, or one of the other tools, and reach out to some wonderful ppl here, for me reaching out to HHM was what I needed

fighting4ever wrote on 03 Dec 2024 04:11:

Hi there R' fighting4ever! It was defiantly a smart move to post here to the warmest family of klal yisroel.

I would recommend to reach out to michelgelner@gmail.com, he is someone who struggled like me and you and has been clean for years. Hundreds here can testify that the phone call to him has set them back in the right direction. Doesn't mean there won't be bumps on the way but it's defiantly a good move.

Hatzlacha Raba and keep us posted.

fighting4ever wrote on 03 Dec 2024 04:11:

Welcome to the warmest family in the world!

Here you will find true care, concern, and warmth.
Here you will learn that you CAN break free!
There are many tools here to help you in this fight.
There is the F2F Program, the Vaad Program, the book The Battle of the Generation - many have found this very helpful in reframing the struggle.
(Captain, I got the link! It's right here!)

There is also an extremely powerful tool of accountability, friends, and mentors, as has been mentioned, that has helped hundreds - myself included.
HHM - Hashem Help Me - is the mentor-in-chief around here. He's reachable at michelgelner@gmail.com.
Some of the other great guys here are Eerie - 1gimpelovitz@gmail.com, Muttel - muttel15@gmail.com, and iwannalivereal iwannalivereal@gmail.com Reb Akiva - mevakesh247@gmail.com. 

(How about opening your own thread? You will be able to hear wisdom from the many greats on this site, get feedback, and keep track of your journey.)

Looking forward to seeing great things from you!
And don't forget, as always, KOMT!!