started reading the sa white book and im getting a sponser now and getting a life the best thing i like about sa meeting is to hear goying speaking about how they found g-d and i havnt found him yet it shouts at u look were they are and were u are

Hatzlocha!! If u ever want us to shmooze, be my guest!

i fell again and again and again

Hey, hey... someone who smokes 20 cigars a day... one day he wakes up and says "I want to quit",

What would u suggest?

To just stop smoking? Its impossible! requires time and patience.

Like u, I want to stop falling, and I want to leave it completly. But things arent like that. It requires working on ourselves.

Like Yaakov, step by step...

Sure it hurts, but thats recovery. To archive greatness is not easy. Success needs effort and work.

"Remember, the Yetzer Hara wants you to get DOWN about the fall, even more than he wanted you to fall. Once he gets you down, he OWNS you."


I know you have what it takes to beat this. (u know u have it) We all believe in u... Full steam ahead!

Antartic wrote on 04 Dec 2012 18:05:

thanks amazing stuff

Antartic wrote on 04 Dec 2012 18:05:


I think many heavy smokers have stopped "cold turkey" and remained smoke-free. Am I just imagining?

MT

Hmmmmmmmmmmm Rav Shach Z''L did it ...

I've tried but didn't work...

as dov wrote that part of recovery is to use your real name i have changed my profile to my real name

Antartic wrote on 05 Dec 2012 15:45:

smoking its actully easyer to stop completly

avrohom wrote on 06 Dec 2012 18:24:
You are a wise man, chaver. Wise indeed.

Hatzlocha! (and Good Shabbos)

So are you Melost? I agree with Dov about using real names, but I would advise not to change names because it mixes things up, just at the end of the post, post your real name.

Yitzchok

correct it does mix things up last night i felt like acting out i texted someone and the second i sent it the feeling left me avrohom

went to sa yesterday but alas last night was reading novel and it had some erotic parts and it was late bynight and i acted out avrohom

Melost/Avraham,
Remember, fell shmell, the goal of SA is progressive victory over lust, not cold turkey perfection. SA has been great for me. Meeting real people with the same problems is exponentially better for me than this awesome, wonderful anonymous forum. What has helped me even more is making/taking phone calls. All the SA meetings i have attended have a phone list, many of which have times listed when each person is available. Also, this forum allows you to have "friends" in different time zones, so even at 3am local time you can have the number of someone who is awake in the middle of their day. If you want an East Coast USA phone contact, pm me and we can talk. It may take a day or two for me to get back to your pm as i limit my time on line.

Hatzlacha in all things GOOD!
chaimyakov

just came backfrom isreal from the second i came to the airport i didnt stop lusting basicly i fell tons but the most importent thing is i started talking to g-d tons and accepting i had a few bad things happen like it seemed i wouldnt be able to go to my rebbe with a kvittel and other things that seemed bad i turned to g-d and said thank u for all these things even through they seem bad i know that everything u do is for the best i said it until i actully felt it. thank u hashem for that avrohom