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I wanted to share my recent experience in the hopes that it can be mechazik others. I’m 30 and married, and like so many of us I’ve been batting in this area for years. There’s always ups and downs, but eventually I reached a point at which I felt I had things under co...

Question from member "wilnevergiveup": I am a serious avreich learning full time, I learn mussar regularly and constantly strengthen myself with various incentives. I can then usually keep myself clean for 2-3 weeks, then this or that and I am back to square one. I will t...

I am currently over 7 months clean and still have depression (for which I take medicine), and I get into the escape mode a lot (I surf the news or just try to numb my existence). I'm feeling lost, what am I missing?

I ask my Higher Power to help me realize what He is trying to teach me through these challenges and what I need to correct in my thoughts or actions as a result

Rigzu - get mad at your Yetzer. If that doesn't work, then fix your mind on - V’al techta’u - I will not sin, no matter what. Imru bilvavchem al mishkavchem - make a physical Siman or barrier on your bed, and then - Vedomu - lie stone-still, don't move, even to the point ...

This can be called a sobriety statement or a prayer, whatever works for you: "God (or Higher Power) I am powerless over this addiction and I surrender it to You. I turn my life and will over to Your care Please help me, I'm in Your hands." --------------------------------...

Most Keri occurs as a result of impure thoughts that pass through the mind throughout the day. These strengthen the animalistic soul. When a person goes to sleep certain parts of his soul leave him. These parts of the soul are associated with the conscious mind, with thei...

Rabbi Nachman teaches,In order to serve God, you must be obstinate. On no account should you give up and abandon the practices you have begun. Don't give up in any way, no matter what happens. Remember this well, because you will be in great need of it when you start serv...

A while back, I met with Rav Nasan Maimon who taught me something from his Rebbe, Rabbi Michel Dorfman, zt'l. He taught me in the name of Rebbe Nachman of Breslov that if one wants to repent he should accustom himself to recite Psalms daily. (5 a day and you can finish th...

First and foremost I thank this very special group, the finest of the finest, called GYE. For many decades I could not rid myself of using porn and acting out until I found this site. Today, thanks to Hashem, I am three years clean. I often have to travel by plane for...

Keeping my eyes and my thoughts away from even mildly pornographic or destructive things is something I believe is important and will make me a happier person. I want to be thinking about how to reach my dreams, how to be a better husband, how to do something awesome,...

I want to try to clarify some of the fundamental differences between the Torah approach and other approaches. I do not want to discuss any particular approach. I only want to try to add clarity to what the Torah approach is. The things I discuss may or may not be contrary...

Rav Dovid Chaim Stern is a great Rabbi in Eretz Yisrael. He was the Talmid Muvhak of Rav Chazkel Levenstein. He taught me something amazing, as I have had a history of difficulty with Machshava. He taught me a method to memorize Mishnayot that helps clean a person's min...

Sometimes, I find the nisyanos and challenge of watching my eyes so difficult. At times, it can feel so unnatural - having to look away from so many things on the street, constantly on guard. And then I start asking myself why? Why would Hashem ask this of us? And what'...

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The Mishna in Avos teaches that Torah study with Derech Eretz is "yafa" - beautiful - because the engrossment in both (continuously) makes us forget sin. Most of us are not on the level of the saintly Rogatchover Gaon who said about himself that his whole life he was so ...

During these Three Weeks, in addition to mourning the destruction of the physical Yerushalayim, we must turn our focus inward and dig deep with ourselves, to mourn our own destruction. Who could we have become if we hadn't let sin take root? What happened to that innocen...

Perhaps you've heard the news. Iceland is gearing up to ban Internet pornography. It won't only be a crime, it would be straight-up impossible to look at porn with government filters in place. Soon, your first step to freedom could be to move to Iceland. I've priced tic...