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A person who just found out that he has a serious disease, or someone who is ill, in pain, or just lost a large sum of money - it's unlikely that such a person would be having a difficult struggle with shmiras ainayim or improper thoughts at that time. Suddenly these type...

A Jew needs to use both the attributes of humility AND haughtiness - but both, for the service of Hashem! As the Pasuk says "Vayigbah Libo Bedarkei Hashem" - "and his heart was proud in the ways of Hashem" (about one of the kings of Klal Yisrael). One of the previous Karl...

When we say "no" to the Yetzer Hara and we feel pain, that is not our pain. That is the Yetzer Hara in pain. We are striking HIM where it hurts. And sometimes, when it takes real Messiras Nefesh to turn away from the bad things we used to do, that taste of "death" we may ...

When Moshiach comes - any day now, G-d willing, we will yearn for the days when we had the struggle, when the struggle was so real. There is no greater connection with Hashem than when a person feels that he needs Hashem every second to save him. The Sefer Shamati (from t...

Recovery from harmful addictions is like a caterpillar climbing a staircase. For the caterpillar, stairs are a challenge. After a short upwards incline, the caterpillar reaches a plateau, a long flat surface that is not going up at all. Things go smoothly for a while as t...

People spend their whole lives running after happiness and thinking "if only I had this or that I would be happy". But happiness through physical pleasure disappears the moment the pleasure is gone. One can never get enough and is never happy. This has been shown, time an...

We've been working for the past few months with a 20 year old Ba'al Teshuvah, unmarried and schooling in a secular environment. Through great self-sacrifice he has been clean for close to a half a year already. Recently however, he has been feeling a bit frustrated and se...

The Jews who left Egypt didn't make it into the Holy Land. They couldn't believe that Hashem was strong enough to conquer so many powerful nations. But even though they didn't make it, their children did, as is says "and your children who you said would be plundered, the...

Listen up, all you spiritual warriors on our list! We keep receiving e-mails from people how difficult the struggle is and how they keep slipping... Dear Yidden! We know how powerful lust is, and how insidious the addiction can be! BUT... We know that the addiction is de...

One of the members of our forum who goes by the name "Jack", has been struggling for 38 years. Thank G-d, Jack is already past 60 days clean with the help of all the wonderful people who offer support on the forum. Jack's time-line can be viewed here, and his thread on th...

Someone sent us his story recently, and at the end he writes: "I've come a long way, and with the help of this site and the forum, I'm able to climb further up. But till today, I still have a hard time talking to women and I feel like I blush every time I have to face one...

Dear holy Yidden, We might have a tendency to think that after Rosh Hashana and Yom-Kippur when we worked so hard and achieved spiritual heights, the Yetzer Hara won't bother us for a while. I must warn you. It is exactly the other way around. Precisely when there is so m...

"Jack" Posted: To the people that think they are not doing well because they are still falling: it is a process. In the beginning of the process, you think you're not doing well because you still fall. But falling and getting up is PART OF THE PROCESS. What do you think, ...

Someone sent us this cute "number Cheshbon" below, based on the ABC. Although obviously this is not a "Gematria" with any real meaning, the lesson it brings out is a powerful truth. (Pictures from the war in Gaza were added for illustrative purposes).If you can't see the ...

Someone asked us recently after a fall for an incentive to restart his clean count to 90 days. Off the top of my head, I wrote him the following:Our sages say two things:1) "Repent a day before you die". Since we don't know if we will be alive tomorrow, we must always rep...

Today I am going to reveal to everyone one of the deepest secrets to winning this battle. So make sure to read carefully: The moment a person decides in his mind that no matter how much it hurts or how bitter it is - he will do it anyway, no matter what; the moment he is ...

Dear Friend, I have come to visit once again. I love to see you suffer mentally, physically, spiritually, and socially. I want to make you restless so you can never relax. I want to make you jumpy, nervous, and anxious. I want to make you agitated and irritable so everyth...

ShomerAiyin had a slip after 12 days and writes: I remember saying "No" to the Yetzer Hara quite a number of times during the past 12 days, so I guess that's gotta count for something. But the fact that I've only been able to string together bunches of clean days separate...