When a newcomer first comes to the GYE network, they can easily be overwhelmed and feel lost. They will see many tips and much advice, ranging from the most simple and basic techniques, such as daily chizuk, forums, the 90-day challenge and more, and on through more drastic steps, such as 12-Step groups, therapy and even medication. It is often hard for the newcomer to pinpoint exactly how "addicted" they really are, and what kind of steps are the most appropriate for them to try. For example, obviously a beginner is not going to jump straight into psychotherapy or join a live 12-Step group, in the same way we don't try to treat the common flu with chemotherapy.
And that is the goal of Part 1 of this handbook. We have attempted to put together a guide of the practical tools that we in the Guard Your Eyes community have found useful. And we try to present them in a progressive order that goes more-or-less from the most basic and fundamental tools, and on through the more intense and life-changing recommendations.
The ideas and tools we share here, as well as the order they are presented in, are nothing more than suggestions. We are only sharing what many in the GYE community have found to work. You may try subtracting, adding, or jumping steps, as you see fit. We would be happy to hear if you feel that something has worked better or differently for you. We may even add it in future versions of this handbook (contact us through our website).
It is our hope that with this step-by-step tool guide, every person who struggles with lust addiction, no matter how mild or severe their addiction may be, will find guidelines that can help them achieve full recovery. All we need to do, is to start from the beginning and begin to check off the steps/tools that we have - or have not yet - tried. Should we find that we could not successfully break free even after applying the initial advice of this handbook, we will be able to find increasingly powerful and more addiction-oriented solutions, ensuring that we will eventually achieve a complete recovery be"H.