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As a sexoholic trying to work the program with an SA sponsor to the best of my understanding, I would like to answer a few points the recovering person asked.1) Honesty in our society, especially in the Shuls etc. - The truth is there is lots of dishonesty in society, e...

Retorno.org | Introduction My friend was sitting with me, and he said once and for all that God had done for him what he could not have done for himself. His human desire had failed, and doctors had said that he was incurable. And then something lifted him...

Most of us spend a lot of time inside our own mind — worrying about the future, replaying events in the past, and generally focusing on the parts of life that leave us dissatisfied. While common, negative or unwanted thoughts can prevent you from enjoying experiences, d...

I want us to reflect on the demise of guys. Guys are flaming out academically; they're wiping out socially with girls, and intimately with women. Girls outperform boys now at every level, from elementary school to graduate school. What's the evidence of wiping out? First,...

A rabbi and a priest sat next to each other on a train from Kiev to Warsaw. At lunch, the priest pulled out a bacon sandwich and offered a half to the rabbi. “No, thank you,” said the rabbi, “It’s against my religion to eat bacon.” “Tell me the truth, rabbi,” asked the p...

There are different ways that parents praise their children when they are being really good. One compliment I often hear parents give is: "you are such an angel." We use this form of praise because in our minds we have an image of angels as perfect holy beings that nev...

I read the article you sent me by this Rabbi criticizing the 12-step program. Rather than responding to each point, I would like to discuss a broader issue. Sexual addiction and pornography are now epidemic, even among frum people, and are destroying families. The followi...

Understanidng

This is a little something I wrote upon hearing the sad news of the famous actor, Philip Seymour Hoffman's passing, due to an overdose of drugs (after being clean for 23 years). The news touched me deeply and this is my reflection... While many mourn Philip S. Hoffman's f...

Excerpts from an article on "Addictions" - by the renowned Psychiatrist, Carl Jung Addiction is not a disease, it is an attitude. Addiction, in the end, is a behavior that we choose to indulge. Addiction is something that you act on without thought of consequence. Addicti...

R' Avraham J. Twerski, world renowned expert on addictions, author of over 50 books and a great Talmid Chacham, is one of the guiding forces for our website. His advice, experience and immense knowledge, are invaluable to us and provide direction and technique for all of ...

Some may protest the above title. "Why do we need to look for psychological explanation when someone acts out sexually?" they protest. There is a simple explanation. It's called taivah (lust) and yetzer hara (evil inclination). Looking for psychological explanations, they...

Anytime a VIP gets caught with his (or her) pants down - Arnold Schwarzenegger or Anthony Weiner, for example - you can almost hear the collective "huh?" around the nation's water coolers, on its Twitter feeds and shared over its backyard fences. What in the heck were tho...

Just change the words "Gambling" and "GA" in this article to "Lust" and "SA". I write to you in shame and humiliation. You don't know me but I know you. For now, it will have to remain this way. I hope you understand. I am writing because I am in a state of desperation....