Do you tell Laticia walking down the street in her tank and short shorts to "realize" what she's doing to you? YOU CAN ONLY CHANGE YOURSELF! TRYING TO CHANGE OTHERS ALWAYS BACKFIRES. We can only change others by example. Perhaps they will make the changes to be like us once they're ready. But meanwhile, we can only work on ourselves. The Yetzer Hara wants us to blame it on the environment.... "It's not my fault... it's hers..." WRONG! I am responsible for me. I can only change me. I can only be a shining example to others.