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A Woman asked: After being married for 2 years, I found gay hookup apps on my husband's phone. This was tremendously shocking and heartbreaking. We are dealing with it well but I feel totally tricked (into marriage) and betrayed. Also, my brother had known this whole time...

Question to the Rav: I struggle with lust for many years. I have been going out with a girl for a while now and I am deeply attracted to her personality. I enjoy our time together, our conversations of deep meaning. But I have little physical attraction to her. I am not s...

Answer: We sent your question to Rabbi Dr. Abraham Twerski (author of over 60 books on psychology), and also discussed it with some of the experts on our team. We feel that you will need to choose between two options, depending on the type of relationship you have with yo...

Dear Rabbi Twerski, A woman called that she found out her father was using escort services and the like. I offered to send the father an e-mail telling him that someone in the family was concerned about him and wanted him to know about GYE and SA 12-Step groups. She is a...

Listen to Rabbi Abraham Twerski, who is a world expert on addictions, answer the question at this link (32 minutes and 12 seconds into the talk). Here is a transcript: First of all, the question is, what is the definition of addiction? I don't think we have a good def...

Rabbi Dr. Avraham Twerski wrote to GYE: Dear Yakov: A wife said that Elya Katz recommends a week of intensive therapy at a rehab. Her husband's addiction is to porn and masturbation. Is this advisable/necessary? Twerski We responded: I believe I know who the Rav ...

Dear R' Twerski, Lately we have been having some machlokes on GYE regarding what advice to give wives who discovered that their husbands are addicts and the husbands are not motivated to get help. One view claims it's best that the wife "force" the husband to get help in ...

A women wrote us: Good evening, I am writing to you for some advice and I hope you can help me. Some background first: My husband and I have been married for almost three years. We have one baby. A little more than a year ago, out of the blue, I decided to check we...

I think I have a bit of a dif. problem then a bunch of u guys… I’m a 19 year old kid and always have a smile on my face and just love speaking to people, and for some reason, it just gets me into major trouble, I mean MAJOR! I have a laptop in yeshiva and don’t feel an ur...

Check out this interesting article from the English Hamodia section called "Seeking Solutions". In this feature, readers send in their questions and the renowned psychiatrist, author and Torah Scholar Rabbi Avraham Twerski attempts to answer. For more on internet addict...

  For those who are not yet familiar with Jack, he is one of the most popular and sincere members of our forum. He is 49 years old and has been struggling with this for 38 years. Jack was on the "Jewish Healing Group" phone conference in the beginning of Elul when the the...

One of our members, who had hit bottom and was willing to try anything to break free, was still struggling to understand what is so important about the 12 steps groups, and how, as a frum Yid, it could possibly offer more than Chizuk and Mussar could provide. We presented...

Dear Guard, Please read my story below. I need advice about what I must do now. My name is Rabbi Moshe, I am a sex and love addict and a kiruv professional. My addiction has progressed to exhibitionism, threatening my parnosso and my sanity. I am also very addicted to por...

Dear Rabbi Twerski, My wife found out I was viewing pictures and she was very offended, and rightfully so. It almost ruined our marriage! However, since she found out and I admitted everything to her, literally everything, she suggested I get help. She thinks I have an ad...

Dear R' Twersky shlita, I am a yeshiva bochur who recently joined the Guardureyes website after many years of struggling with my addiction. From when I was a very young kid I began to take an enormous amount of interest in females. Over time, it turned into a full blown ...

Hello Rabbi Twerski, I am a 21 year old Yeshivah Bochur and college student. I started lusting at the very end of 8th grade. I've been involved masturbation, pornography and even bad chatting, but B'H I have been shomer Negiah throughout high school. I joined GuardYourEye...

At the Agudah Convention in New York, 2009, Rabbi Twerski endorsed the idea of 12 step programs, saying "they work" and denying that they need to have a Christian component. Each of the steps they entail, he said, "is in Chazal." Rabbi Twerski also put out a book called "...

Dear Rabbi Twerski, There was a lively discussion on our forum over here recently about whether or not we should tell children how babies are born, and at what age, and how much to reveal, etc... If the Rav has time to read some of the points of view that were expressed o...