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The following five thoughts helped interrupt my out-of-balance thinking and behavior. Practiced with honesty and integrity, they can allow you to be free of unwanted addictions. 

Compulsive sexual behavior disorder is characterized by a persistent pattern of failure to control intense, repetitive sexual impulses or urges resulting in repetitive sexual behavior.

This article is reprinted from Fortify.com: Copyright Disclaimer Addiction teaches us to rationalize and justify. Over time we get really good at making excuses for ourselves to act out and we keep buying into our own lies. There is no end to what a porn addict can come u...

Does My Kid Have an Internet Addiction? (How to Know) Posted at 03:19h in Kid & Teen Issues by Chris McKenna Is Internet Addiction Real? The May 2013 Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) was the first to include Internet gaming disorder ...

The accusations levied against Harvey Weinstein, Kevin Spacey, Louis CK and others for sexual assault, harassment and abuse have created righteous outrage and concerns that “sex addiction treatment” is being used to excuse their offensive behavior. It is critical to und...

Sometimes it is difficult to determine if someone is dealing with a sexual addiction. A man who views pornography a couple times a year may be acting inappropriately and hurting intimacy between him and his wife, but it doesn’t mean he is a sex addict. A sexual addiction...

Breathing, Counting, and a Memory… This very simple brain exercise has changed my life. I struggled with porn addiction for a very long time, and I use many tools to prevent going back to that life but this is something that never fails me. Internet porn addiction is argu...

We all have something in our brain called the “reward pathway.” Its function is to reward us with a chemical called dopamine when we do certain things that give us pleasure. When one watches pornography his brain gets flooded with a really high level of dopamine. A heal...

Porn is addictive for the same reason that many drugs are addictive. Neuroscientist Dr. William Struthers explains how the brain reacts to viewing pornography repeatedly: As men fall deeper into the mental habit of fixating on these images, the exposure to them create...

Robert came to my office, not by his own choice. He was “forced” by his wife Linda to meet me with me. She was sick and tired of Robert’s growing distance from her. And had suspected that he was acting inappropriately on his computer and was repulsed by the way he woul...

Triggers: The Why Matters In order how to understand how triggers work and how to avoid them, the larger question of the why a person is triggered must be addressed. A preoccupation with pornography might begin as just that--a preoccupation/bad habit--but it can easily mo...

Imagine a drug so powerful it can destroy a family simply by distorting a man's perception of his wife. Picture an addiction so lethal it has the potential to render an entire generation incapable of forming lasting marriages and so widespread that it produces more annual...

"Sexual addicts need to remember the decades of struggle that alcoholics had to go through in order to earn public acceptance of their illness." ~ Patrick Carnes Sex is a normal, healthy urge. But for the sex addict, it becomes perverted into a cop...

After the alcohol and drugs are gone, what’s next? The path of recovery, followed closely by the gifts of sobriety, may seem like a hard sell at first. I remember that very day when I was being asked to choose between the comforts and certainty of active addiction, or c...

I struggle. I am not the only woman who does. Maybe you do, maybe you know someone that does. I was convinced that I was the only one. I thought I stood alone and that sucked. I was so ashamed of myself and I felt like I was hiding all of the time. The struggle is real,...

Pushed down a hallway that I was never supposed to be in, pushed further away from life, happiness, fulfillment, reality, toward a place of dark twisted things, rotting dreams and fake smiles, tortured screams and wild inhuman laughter, echoing faintly. There are roo...

The Goals of this presentation are: For Educators to be able to- 1) Differentiate compulsive behavior (serious) suggesting professional intervention from a subclinical (not as serious) issue 2) Identify a great variety of behaviors in which this problem can appear or man...

When one struggles with pornography, triggers are everywhere, especially in the hypersexualized media all around us. It often takes just a simple image to set off the chemical reaction in the brain, which first develops by looking at pornography. Sadly, simply turning o...