Rav Nachman says, the name of the Yetzer Hara in our generation is "Dimyon" - "imagination". This is very deep. That's truly all the Yetzer Hara is, a big bubble of "imaginary" pleasure that just pops in your face!
Think about it. Sexuality is really 97% desire and only 3% pleasure. Let's analyze it:
- First, you want it. Then you want it more. Then you start to give in and need it more and more. Then you want it so much, you NEED it. Then you must have it now! Then you're about to get it! Then, it's finally coming, you want it, want it, want it...
- But if you ever paid attention though, as the pleasure actually comes - the arousals have already left your head. There are no more lusts or fantasies, only the petty pleasure. The bubble of desire is already gone, even as the pleasure comes. The Yetzer Hara has done it's job already...
- 10 seconds later, it's all over. Done. Nothing. Only emptiness and quilt are left to linger.
So it's 97% desire and 3% pleasure. So what is there to give in for? Don't give up everything precious for this! Earn your eternal reward in the world to come by just saying "No".
Use simple analysis to conquer the Yetzer Hara! No need to be a mighty warrior in a major battle. Sometimes, just using your "head" takes away the necessity for a mighty battle in your "heart".