Our website and network is called "GuardUrEyes" because the eyes are the "windows to the soul". All the limbs of the body - including the heart and mind, follow the purity of the eyes. No matter how complex this disease seems to be, emotionally, psychologically, physically, etc... it all boils down to guarding the eyes. Even a heart and mind that has been polluted from years of abuse, will also become pure and holy over time, once a person has learned to guards his eyes.
Here are some "mind-tips" to help you guard your eyes:
1) When struggling, tell yourself that no matter how painful it feels NOT to look, it is even MORE PAINFUL to look.
a) You feel suddenly far from Hashem and from your goals.
b) You feel the disease coming back and a feeling of helplessness and depression sets in.
c) And you know that what you see in the street you can't have anyway. So looking and desiring what you can't have anyway HURTS.
So essentially, the pain you feel when not looking is MUCH BETTER than the pain of looking.
2) Also, the pain you feel when NOT looking, is "healing pain". It's the pain of a "work-out". As they say in body-building exercises: "No pain, no gain". On the other hand, the spiritual and psychological pain of looking, is the pain of the disease getting worse. Which pain do you choose?
3) The pain you feel when not looking is not really your pain at all. It is the pain of the Yetzer Hara in his "death throws". He is screaming that you are hitting him hard. So enjoy the pain! You are feeling the pain of your enemy as he is dying!
When I was struggling with shmiras HaEinayim, I felt that the Y"H was literally pulling and pushing my head in any direction that he wished. It was as if I had no free choice. The reason I felt like this is because...this IS what was happening. He was in control. Wherever I would walk, I tried and failed. Then, I decided to make very very small goals. I would accept upon myself, that the walk from shul to my home, (about 100 meters) I absolutely no matter what, would not look anywhere except at the ground. It was difficult, but this was a goal that I could handle. After a few times of doing this, I was able to increase the goal. During the same period when I was driving,which is much more difficult as we are looking almost everywhere in order to drive safely, I could see with my peripheral vision, that there were "interesting" things walking on the sidewalk. I literally had to scream and shout with pain in order to break the pull of the Y"H. This too worked, and immediately afterwards things became much easier.