What do we seek in lust? It is our subconscious that is craving true love and true security. There's a deep need inside of us that we desperately attempt to fill with lust. But the lust never fills it, and can NEVER fill it. The fulfillment of the most amazing fantasy we could ever imagine, is with flesh - rotting flesh. And it leaves us feeling empty and disillusioned.
So are we destined to run after this deep subconscious need our whole lives and never find what we are TRULY looking for? Isn't that cruel of G-d? After all, he created us with this deep inner longing to love and be loved deeply, to feel comfortable and secure, completely en-wrapped and connected to someone who we love deeply and who loves us deeply in return... We crave this at the very core of our essence. Why? Why must we suffer so? So many people run their whole lives desperately trying to fill this need with things that "look like" they hold the answer to this need, at least somewhat... But they never find it... What is the meaning of it all? Why are the things that look so good to us really so bad for us? Why is the world so cruel?
The answer, my friend, is right in the room with you now. There is no need to run after anything, anything at all. He is right there and He loves you infinitely. And He is just waiting for you to give yourself completely over to Him.
Davka by giving up the things that "look so good" but aren't, do we learn how to give up our "self-will" and connect to G-d in the deepest way.
Yes, we CAN love and be loved, in a way that is far deeper than we could have ever imagined. We truly can find pleasure, comfort and security that we only dreamed could exist in this dark world. For He is the source of all good, all pleasure, all security, all beauty, all love. The subconcious need that we had all our lives is really a "G-d hole" inside of us... All that we seek can truly be found in Him.
When we give ourselves over to Him 100%, we can finally start to feel it. Everything we ever thought we needed and craved, is there in Him.
May Hashem help us lose ourselves in His loving embrace for all eternity.