One of the main principles we learn on GYE is that after a certain point, it's not just a struggle with the Yetzer Hara anymore - it's an addiction. But many of us can easily say "oh, I am an addict" soon after landing here... Maybe we like saying that, because in some ways we feel absolved from responsibility by just saying "oh, I can't help myself, I am an addict"... And it's true that we may be in the grip of something much stronger than we are. But accepting that we are addicts means more than that... It means accepting the things that addicts must do...
A guy can say "I accept that I have a cholesterol problem", but if he's still eating double cheese burgers with bacon, he hasn't really accepted that he has a cholesterol problem, has he? Accepting we have an addiction means accepting the rules that addicts live by... And the one most important rule is, that we cannot allow for any lust... If we give lust the slightest foot in the door, it's all over... The key is to avoid lust at all costs... Yes, this is easier said than done, but how many of us call ourselves addicts but continue to dabble here and there with lust and then wonder why we can't seem to make any progress? The tiniest speck of lust in us will explode like the big bang into worlds and worlds of negative behavior and acting out...
We must accept the terms by which a lustaholic must live by... Accept that we are not allowed some of the things that the rest of this world enjoys... We must get ready to live a new life; one that is different than what we have been doing up till now, and one that is different from many other members of society.