I just printed out and started reading the Attitude Handbook. Amazing!
I'm very impressed; a shame I didn't get around to reading it earlier.
I just saw something that is written that inspired me:
Hashem does not desire results.
Hashem desires the heart; the ratzon - "will".
Hashem does not expect all of us to never fall again.
Hashem does not expect all of us to never be depressed again.
There is something called the "Nekudas Habechira".
Everyone has a certain point at which their decision of bechira takes place.
For one person, it might be to not mast***.
For another, it might be not to have illicit relations.
One person might struggle not to murder.
Another will struggle not to be mean to people.
You ask:
"But Uri, what about the Torah and Halacha?!"
The answer is simple but profound:
Hashem does not expect from us that which we cannot do.
We must know where we are holding.
Remember that always, my friends.
Hashem did not need me to daven mincha today with a minyan.
I was not in that place, and it would've been nearly impossible.
So I went to my room and davened biyichidus.
And that was perhaps as good as other people going to minyan.
For one person, learning one hour might be equal 12 hours for someone else!
Another example:
"Vesamachta Bechagecha"
Let's say you have a guy who is manically depressed.
Like mamesh always down in the dumps.
And you're gonna tell this guy to just be happy???
Perhaps his mitzva is just to look up to Shamayim and say:
"Hashem! I so want to be happy!"
Maybe for him, he just fulfilled "Vesamachta Bechagecha".
Let us give Hashem our hearts, friends.
1 hour; 5 hours; 24 hours
"Echad hamarbeh veechad hamamit, ubilvad sheychavain libo lashamayim"
"Whether a lot or a little, as long as the heart is turned to Heaven".
The Tzemach Tzedek asks concerning the Cantonists (forced conscripts to the Russian army from age 10 to 35), "how could Hashem force these boys to be in a position that they can't fulfill many of the mitzvas?"
The answer he gives, is that Hashem has a immense pleasure from the few mitzvos that they were able to do with mesiras nefesh!
On a similar note, there's a story of a well-known sinner who liked coming to a certain Tishes, hisvaadus, farbrengens, etc... Once, the Chassidim there made him feel unwanted sitting together with him at there table, and he left. When the Rebbe heard this he was extremely upset and he said, "we cannot imagine the intense pleasure that the Ribono Shel Olam has for each second that this Jew is sitting with Chassidim and not sinning!"