"הנרות הללו קודש הם ואין לנו רשות להשתמש בהם"
"Chanukah candles are holy and we have no permission to use them, rather only to see them." - And for how long? Half an hour from the start. After the half-hour, they are allowed to be used. In marriage, when a person returns home after a long day away from home, it must be known that in the first half an hour that we meet, we must not use each other.
"But to see them only" - just to see each other, enjoy that he/she came home. A lot of people think before they get married, "Soon I will have someone to take care of me, to give me what I need" or "soon I'll have someone to give me what I am missing." But everyone must know that "these candles are holy and we do not have permission to use them," the couple is holy and should not be used.
What are we doing today?- lighting Chanukah candles and... next to the candles. Take a moment to see each other. Look at each other for thirty seconds.
Tell one another about the special light that it brings to your life.
"נר איש וביתו"
- The circle can be expanded to other family members in the light of the candles. During dinner, where each tells the other person near to you "the light that you bring in to our family / the world is ... "