I've been meaning to write in for a while now and say thank you. I have been "clean" since a few days before Rosh Chodesh Elul (close to 4 months). My story is, I'm sure, not unique. I have tried over time to control myself, sometimes succeeding for one or two months, but never with the level of dedication and commitment that I have now.
What's interesting is, when I first became aware of your site (through the Aish article), I skimmed your handbook and signed up for both daily chizuk emails. They go to a hidden filter in my In-Box. At first I would read them maybe every other day, maybe less, sometimes more often. Today, I read them even less, but it's amazing that the mere knowledge that there are people out there struggling with the same things I am, has made the struggle easier to handle. I couldn't imagine that anyone else was really doing the things I was doing. Just knowing that I'm not alone has made all the difference. And while it definitely helps to know that people have succeeded, I really believe it isn't that knowledge that is helping so much, as is the simple knowledge that people are dealing with the same things I am. (I do go back and read the unread chizuk e-mails in my in-box when I feel a weakness coming on.)
For close to four months, I haven't been on any improper sites, and I can count on one hand how often I have even had an erection not for the Mitzva (with nothing further happening, and it ending quickly).
Honestly, the ONLY thing that really gives me the strength to stop and continue to control myself, is that when I don't, it ruins my life. I stay up too late, waste time, lie to my wife, generally feel like dirt etc. I'm not stopping because it's assur. I've tried that motivation in the past and it hasn't worked for me. I know that even indulging occasionally would cause me to spiral immediately. Being honest with myself about that seems to be helping.
So as I said, I've been meaning to give hakoras hatov to you for a while now. Thank you for making me feel like a mentsch again.