Dear Guard & GYE Team,
I was reading the Handbook the other night, and I read about the 3 second rule. I also got an email from a fellow member on the forum, and he told me something that he heard in a shiur, that someone who looks away after a few seconds feels like a Rasha, but really in Shomayim he is like Yosef Hatzaddik.
The next day, my bus was stuck in a 90 second red light and there was a girl stuck by the same light, waiting to cross. She wasn't very tznius, (to say the least). "Oh boy!", I said to myself, "what an opportunity to lust for over a minute, and what an image to lust over in my head all day long!!" ... (And be motzei z'l at night, of course).
Then I remembered what I saw in the handbook about looking for 3 seconds and stopping. After 4 seconds, I looked away and white-knuckled the minute away. Then I remembered the email I got, and I felt like Yosef Hatzaddik all day long.
Thank you both for saving the day.
Have a great Shabbos.