It's been 12 days and I don't even have a desire to sin.
I just decided to stop arguing with people, including my wife, my family and my friends.
If someone disagrees, I smile and stay silent. If I get criticized, I smile, stay silent, and thank Hashem for the beautiful, wonderful, instant Kaparah. For if someone insults you, and you don't respond, all of your sins are forgiven. Why? It's Midah Kineged Midah. Because you had every right to defend yourself, but you chose to forgo your rights. So too, Hashem has every right to punish you for your sins, but Hashem will "follow your example" (kaveyachol) and forgo His rights.
Just get passed the need to "control" everything, be happy always, and Hashem will make miracles for you!